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commentr/StutterFeb 11, 2014
1 points

Whoa whoa. You cant change how other people act. Im glad you're getting a "fuck it" attitude about your speech and I think its good. But dont give these people so much of your focus and attention. Jus...

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commentr/StutterFeb 11, 2014
1 points

YES, avoidance has been one of the most tiring and frustrating aspects of my life and I truly just dont want to feel the pain anymore. I think I've gotten to the point where the pain and indignity of ...

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commentr/StutterFeb 11, 2014
3 points

I'm with bearZero. I think getting older and seeing myself as an adult helped me. It's not that I actively tell myself "go out there, be yourself, and everyone else be damned", I just stopped thinki...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & MonitoringAcceptance & Pride
postr/StutterFeb 11, 2014
3 points

Immense Anger towards it All (Covert Stuttering/Rant)

Immense Anger towards it All (Covert Stuttering/Rant) I am a covert stutterer....kinda. I would classify myself as semi-covert in that I no longer use any techniques, substitutions, or secondaries suc...

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commentr/StutterFeb 10, 2014
2 points

That's so cool to me. I went through the same cycle as you, almost exactly. My first name is easier to say than the name I go by, so when I'm ordering food and I need a name I usually say that. When t...

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commentr/StutterFeb 9, 2014
2 points

That may be it. Normally, I sort of forget that I stutter. I just finish my sentence and go on without giving it any thought. I only notice it when I catch a funny glance or a slight uncomfortable smi...

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commentr/StutterFeb 9, 2014
5 points

It sounds like you are trying to hide the fact that you stutter, wich builds up a lot of pressure. I can't speak for you, but for me it would make me stutter worse. Tell him that you have a mild stut...

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commentr/StutterFeb 9, 2014
2 points

Woah, congrats! On the girl bit, too. :p I have a similar story like yours. While I am not a "journalist", I am in that field, and my work has, increasingly over the years, demanded that I go out and...

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commentr/StutterFeb 9, 2014
3 points

Okie doke! Well, I had a ridiculously bad stutter as a child. So much so that it made me a social recluse from the ages of 12-16. However, literally overnight, I just decided to push myself and go to...

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commentr/StutterFeb 8, 2014
2 points

Sorry for posting this late. I teach high school math, and I've been doing so for almost a decade. I have been stuttering as long as I can remember. Growing up, I figured out ways to make my stutte...

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commentr/StutterFeb 8, 2014
1 points

What I do is try to change the way I speak, like another accent or put emphasis on words. I stutter really less now, i almost never stutter with my friends or anyone, i just stutter when ordering some...

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commentr/StutterFeb 8, 2014
1 points

life long stutterer here and I know exactly what you mean and how you feel about saying your own name. I got so bad at one point that if i was ordering something and no one knew who I was I would use ...

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commentr/StutterJan 27, 2014
2 points

If he's a regular and orders the same thing again and again, ask him when he comes in and just ask "The usual?" If he's like me, he'd either force out the word yes, or simply nod....

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commentr/StutterJan 27, 2014
2 points

I couldn't be covert. It's too soul stripping to me. Stutterings not so bad, makes you stronger if anything. Watch this. http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Gc4HGQHgeFE ...

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commentr/StutterJan 26, 2014
5 points

Damn, sounds like a really rough time man. Ive stuttered openly all my life, but I have a lot of friends who are covert stutterers. Despite my severe disfluencies, I cant imagine having to deal with t...

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postr/StutterJan 26, 2014
14 points

Stuttering;Disconnect

Stuttering;Disconnect Living as a covert stutter for 20 years has left me with a catastrophic hole in my spirit, connection to others has been skewed for so much of my life that I feel completely inhu...

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postr/StutterJan 20, 2014
17 points

Having an extremely hard time looking for work with a stutter. Advice? What do the rest of you do?

Having an extremely hard time looking for work with a stutter. Advice? What do the rest of you do? Here in the UK unemployment is pretty bad anyway, but I find myself completely blocking when inquirin...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work
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postr/StutterJan 10, 2014
4 points

Get over your fear of stuttering online course test run. Looking for 5 guinea pigs :)

Get over your fear of stuttering online course test run. Looking for 5 guinea pigs :) Hello fellow stutters, Do you get a nasty spike of anxiety when your phone rings? Do you avoid certain items when...

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commentr/StutterJan 10, 2014
2 points

I'm currently 16 and in high school. I've been stuttering for as long as I can remember. Growing up I was home schooled until 7th grade so that certainly didn't help my people skills. My best friend o...

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Hiding & ConcealmentAvoidance & SubstitutionEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterJan 9, 2014
3 points

I have a pretty severe stutter so I'm always aware of it. I still care when talking to people at work (since it's somehow more urgent that I get my info across), but I find giving myself "permission" ...

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