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commentr/StutterFeb 20, 2023
6 points

I always have to be ready to fight back against interruptions or I will not be taken seriously. Ready to say ["That was not the end of sentence! That was not the end of sentence!"](https://www.youtub...

Coping & Advocacy
Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterFeb 17, 2023
3 points

Let him introduce himself. It might seem like it’s helping to finish the sentence for him but its probably not. Aside from it being rude, you don’t live in his thoughts so you can’t always be accurate...

Coping & Advocacy
Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterFeb 17, 2023
7 points

After you stutter on your name, just say with a smile something like, “No, I didn’t forget my name, I just stutter sometimes.” That should break the ice. Also, work on your relationship with yoursel...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Identity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & PrideSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterFeb 17, 2023
2 points

I’m just going to throw in an alternative view: maybe the onus should be on your wife to respond differently rather than on you to speak differently. Her feelings are valid, but that doesn’t mean they...

Coping & Advocacy
Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
postr/StutterFeb 17, 2023
10 points

How to talk to someone with a stutter?

How to talk to someone with a stutter? This seems like a common question, but I did some scrolling and couldn't find it asked previously here. Recently a person with a moderate stutter joined my Bibl...

Community & SupportSocial & RelationshipsAnticipation & Avoidance
Validation & EmpathyDisclosure & Telling OthersOverthinking & Monitoring+1 more
commentr/StutterFeb 16, 2023
2 points

As an adult I have this problem when people ask who I work for. I completely understand how it makes you feel. One trick I've found is to say something like "I normally stutter when I say this but &l...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterFeb 16, 2023
1 points

If they give you weird looks, you just tell them you have a stutter and that's what stutter does to your face....

Coping & Advocacy
Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterFeb 16, 2023
2 points

I've been in your shoes when I was younger. I acted in anger. I will say it reduced bullying. Long term I realized that was not the healthy way for me to deal with it and was probably detrimental t...

Emotional ExperienceCoping & Advocacy
Frustration & AngerSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterFeb 16, 2023
2 points

I think it can work the other way, though. Honestly, how people react to how my husband talks can make them lose “friendship points” with me. I don’t mean if people have a brief, weird reaction the fi...

Social & RelationshipsCoping & Advocacy
Friendships & BelongingSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterFeb 15, 2023
1 points

There must be some middle ground. If you stammer in a different language and can't read it then get a parent to just spend 30 mins with you and get them to read something and you recite what they say....

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Anticipating StutteringSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterFeb 15, 2023
1 points

Depends if you want to be a parent. You cannot isolate yourself from your own children. You can however stop fighting your own opinion and start using A.I. To convert your dormant agression into polit...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterFeb 14, 2023
3 points

I was handling a complaint from a customer once as the manager. They complained to corporate and I almost lost my job as a GM. I told them, fire me and you'll hear from a lawyer for wrongful terminati...

Coping & AdvocacySchool & Work
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesEmployment & Career
postr/StutterFeb 14, 2023
6 points

Has Anyone Been Rejected From A Software Role Because Of Your Stutter?

Has Anyone Been Rejected From A Software Role Because Of Your Stutter? Some time back a friend made a referal for me for this software related role at a tech company. I got accepted for an initial int...

School & WorkCoping & AdvocacyAnticipation & Avoidance
Employment & CareerSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterFeb 13, 2023
1 points

Hi, I'm Sue, and am relatively new to the group. Your response to the young girl whose boyfriend had mimicked her was very wise. She needs to set her boundaries now. It appears that this is a pattern;...

Causes & VariabilityCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Trauma & PsychologicalSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesHope & Motivation+1 more
commentr/StutterFeb 13, 2023
7 points

Making fun of my stutter was and is a redline; anyone who crosses it is out of my life. Period. No exceptions, no do-overs. If you want to salvage this relationship, then you need to communicate to h...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesStigma & Bullying
commentr/StutterFeb 13, 2023
4 points

It's really really easy to nip in the bud. Find what brings him the innermost shame and insecurity. Bring it up whenever he is having the most difficult time and press it into him with the crash of a ...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesStigma & Bullying
commentr/StutterFeb 13, 2023
11 points

You should tell him straight up not to do that. If he can’t listen, move on. There are too many empathic understanding people in the world for you to be with someone who isn’t sensitive to your stutte...

Coping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterFeb 13, 2023
5 points

Part of being in a relationship is communicating. It’s essential. You need to be able to tell him how you feel about what he said. And in a healthy relationship he should be able to take what you said...

Coping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterFeb 13, 2023
19 points

Saying its cute is one thing but copying it is a big no no. I’d sit him down and talk to him about it so it doesn’t happen again....

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesStigma & Bullying
commentr/StutterFeb 9, 2023
2 points

You might not have the authority to require it, but I don't think that should stop you from asking. I get that has a lot to do with the people you work with, company culture, and your own comfort leve...

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Advice RequestsSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries