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commentr/StutterAug 29, 2018
1 points

Have you tried communicating your fears to your partner to see if they have any bases in reality or its just an unfounded fear? Maybe it would be helpful for you to hear their answer about if they thi...

Coping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesDating & Romance
commentr/StutterAug 17, 2018
1 points

You can think of it as a non-avoidance exercise. If it works out fine, if not troubleshoot the situations or tell the rude person they are wrong. It's one aspect of this journey of non-avoidance. Tel...

Coping & Advocacy
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterAug 16, 2018
1 points

I agree. Sometimes I say, "I wish it was less complicated." And they might say it's as uncomplicated as you make it. As if positive thinking was the cure. On the one hand, that is a ridiculous thing t...

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Anxiety & Social JudgmentSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesValidation & Empathy
commentr/StutterAug 10, 2018
1 points

Also, give her mild compliments. Take her on a date. Be wonderful, etc. Keep going forward. A little stuttering is not the worst thing in the world. Also, right after telling someone that I stutter,...

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Dating & RomanceIdentity & Self-PerceptionSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterAug 9, 2018
1 points

It's not all in your head, unless you mean in a neurological way. Different parts of your brain signal for different types of speech. Expressive, everyday language happens in one part of the brain. Si...

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commentr/StutterAug 8, 2018
8 points

Your story sounds almost exactly similar to mine. But I have about 10 years on you so I've been through it all and feel I can offer some advice. 1. It really helps to be open about the fact you stutt...

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commentr/StutterAug 8, 2018
1 points

I'm not sure what to write. So if I write something overly simplistic, I apologize in advance. lol I've read somewhere that in order to change something you must first unfreeze, then change, then ref...

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commentr/StutterAug 8, 2018
2 points

Well, it sounds like you did not get the service you deserve because of the stutter. And that is not fair to you. Call back, speak with a supervisor. Or maybe just speaking with a different operator ...

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Listener ReactionsSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterAug 7, 2018
1 points

Yeah, I feel like it’d be slightly inappropriate to say that I stutter in a situation like that, other situations, not as much. Better to attack the problem at its source (me!) than to chastise a lil ...

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Self-Advocacy & BoundariesDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterAug 6, 2018
1 points

Practice speaking louder at home. Purposely make yourself stutter. Do you have tension in your throat, diaphragm, somewhere else? Relax the tension and try to use techniques specific to that problem. ...

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Fluency TechniquesSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesPhysical Tension
commentr/StutterAug 6, 2018
14 points

I'm sorry that happened, that's the worst. I feel like, in most scenarios like this, transparency is the best thing. Tell the person on the phone you stutter, so have patience please. She probably d...

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Disclosure & Telling OthersSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterAug 6, 2018
3 points

I know it’s easier said than done but don’t let your stutter control you. If you want to converse with your parents, do it. This kind of stuff has a habit of building on itself. Fearing a stuttering...

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commentr/StutterAug 4, 2018
1 points

See if anyone did that while I was doing a presentation in college, I would just abruptly stop, and wait. By doing that, they’d get my message pretty quick, and shut up right away. ...

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Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2018
2 points

True. And if he does annoy OP. OP should just block the person. You don't have to deal with that kind of negativity with gaming. ...

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Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2018
6 points

You can, but you don't have to if you don't want to. It is an opportunity to be vulnerable and practice your speech though. And make sure he really means it when he says he doesn't care, I know some p...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 1, 2018
2 points

I am here to tell you, don't be scared. I have worked in hospitality for 8 years now, and I have a stutter. Sometimes I cant even get my words out. But its no issue. I have worked in bars and restau...

School & WorkAnticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
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commentr/StutterJul 31, 2018
1 points

Yes! and do you ever get the people who sarcastically say "you're welcome?" that drives me up the wall. If it's just someone holding a door or something, I've come to terms with looking rude. But for...

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commentr/StutterJul 30, 2018
2 points

Yes, I experience this awkwardness too, sometimes. It depends on the situation, but when I feel that I can't get past the b in time and the circumstances allow it, I just give them a warm smile,...

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commentr/StutterJul 30, 2018
1 points

I think it depends on the severity of the stutter, but is it possible that you could say up front that you have a slight stutter and when you're nervous (like in interviews) it tends to flare up? For...

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commentr/StutterJul 30, 2018
5 points

I stuttered too..there are two things I did that reduced my stutter to barely noticeable. First: the "don't give a F" attitude. Basically, I just tell myself that I don't give a F what others think, I...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Acceptance & PrideMindset shiftSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries