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commentr/StutterMay 16, 2018
14 points

I don’t think anyone here is gonna tell you to not talk to her. This is her way of saying “go ahead say what you need to say I respect you just as much even if you stutter.” She’ll probably respect ...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterMay 10, 2018
2 points

1. Yeah it is fairly common. People have different kinds of secondary behavior they do when they stutter. I personally, invoultarily make facial contortions and slight head jerks. People develop thes...

Speech & StutteringCoping & Advocacy
Physical TensionSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterMay 9, 2018
11 points

yes. These movements are called accessory behaviors. They are fairly common, although head shaking and flailing arms is on the severe side. Regarding what you can do: (1)Be supportive. These are n...

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commentr/StutterApr 28, 2018
1 points

I personally just tell them I have a condition and try to educate them on the subject. In most cases they get embarrassed or don't care about what I'm explaining as their whole "joke" backfired. I d...

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Self-Advocacy & BoundariesHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterApr 27, 2018
3 points

This is crass but I have a tight group of friends who would never do that but there's 1 younger guy, a friend's boyfriend, about 20, who we got into it over money and he started getting on me about st...

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Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterApr 24, 2018
5 points

Maybe your SO will want to speak for herself. I've never once had the worry 'what if I can't verbally defend my husband?' My husband can speak for himself, so why would I. Speaking up for yourself is ...

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Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterApr 24, 2018
10 points

Somehow I've had this happen to me a lot. The exact same comment, every single time. "Did you forget your name?" "Oh you forgot your name!" "Haha forgot your own name?" and certain other variations of...

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Feared Words & NamesSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterApr 23, 2018
1 points

I'll be honest. I used to. I absolutely hated myself and how I couldn't talk right. People always told me to "just slow down!" without realizing that it happened even when I did talk slow. I would fre...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAvoidance & SubstitutionAcceptance & Pride+1 more
commentr/StutterApr 23, 2018
5 points

It works surprisingly well. They're like "oh shit" and just the savagery that your words produce automatically earn you their respect ...

Coping & AdvocacyAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesHiding & ConcealmentAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterApr 23, 2018
14 points

Thank you! She was just being a bitch even before that. She was swearing in front of the young girl I was mentoring. I feel so happy when I defended myself....

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Self-Advocacy & BoundariesFrustration & Anger
commentr/StutterApr 23, 2018
20 points

On this hallowed day the library forever remembered the man who spoke up for himself where so many others were not able. A hero to all, he seized upon a teachable moment to strike down ignorance and r...

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postr/StutterApr 23, 2018
89 points

Stood up for myself in the library

Stood up for myself in the library I went to the public library and was making some pins with a young girl I am mentoring. The lady (who was very nice) asked us for our names, of course, I struggled w...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesShame & EmbarrassmentHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterApr 23, 2018
5 points

Good on you man. I just wanna say that as a guy, I would never just walk off on another person, especially some girl I just danced with and kissed, who's stuttering or puking in the middle of a conver...

Community & SupportCoping & Advocacy
Validation & EmpathySelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterApr 23, 2018
1 points

If you want to be classy, wear a top hat and carry a cane. Otherwise, tell that person to F*** Off....

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Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterApr 22, 2018
1 points

I've honestly never had a bystander butt into a conversation that I'm having with a friend or acquaintance and tell me to "spit it out" or anything like that. I feel like my gut reply would be like "...

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Self-Advocacy & BoundariesMedicalization / Neurodiversity
commentr/StutterApr 22, 2018
1 points

Fair enough. I couldn’t help myself. Classy for me would be like, “I’m trying but there’s a bigot interrupting me.”...

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Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterApr 22, 2018
2 points

As far as being classy, I wouldn't want to take that route as an instant reply, I was thinking something more along the lines of "I'll take as long as I want to speak, mind your own business"...

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Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterApr 13, 2018
1 points

Unequivocally, yes. I had a personal rule when I was a teenager that my mother and other family members wouldn’t mention it when I stuttered....

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Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterApr 13, 2018
5 points

I have a mild stutter and Im a federal agent. I have to talk to people, arrest them and be aggressive and authoritative. I chose to not let my stutter limit me. I hated talking on the phone and still ...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterApr 10, 2018
4 points

Tell people you have a stutter at the start of the talk, it is common practice for me in research talks and all my interviews now. Slightly settles the nerves and gets rid of the "fear of being found ...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others