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commentr/StutterJan 24, 2021
1 points

Thank you so much...really that is helpful advice One thing I honestly struggle with is getting angry during an argument and messing up my words which helps the other person win and make me look bad ...

Emotional ExperienceCoping & Advocacy
Frustration & AngerSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJan 22, 2021
2 points

Im a 4th student nurse and I frequently have to answer phones in front of many doctors and nurses. I often stammer on the phone. I had a bad experience last week where I stammered on the phone and two...

Emotional ExperienceSchool & WorkCoping & Advocacy
Anxiety & Social JudgmentSchool & Academic LifeSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJan 21, 2021
3 points

Thats what i do, and today i have a great job which includes like 80% of talking. But very often, the interviewer reacts like im sharing too much privat stuff. Thats wierd, i mean it effects my work s...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterJan 21, 2021
4 points

I'm taking speech therapy currently on my stutter but my therapist gave valuable advice that although stuttering may not completely go away, at least you can change your mindset on it. He suggested to...

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2021
2 points

Thanks for your reply :). I know disclosing your stutter is a very personal decision and a hard one. Regarding people in general, you can take your time and start with the people you are closest with ...

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2021
3 points

Here in the netherlands its pretty accepted. My teachers respect it and dont let my stuttering effect my further public presentation performance for example. I often tell them and theyre fine with it,...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Acceptance & PrideSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJan 19, 2021
2 points

Tell him quite clearly: "My stutter is off-limits. I am out of here if it ever happens again. I will not be in a relationship like that." This is YOUR boundary and you are responsible for communicatin...

Coping & Advocacy
Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJan 19, 2021
2 points

Sometimes you have to be rude (or a smart ass) especially if the other person is rude. With a supervisor, I've told them I don't appreciate the comments and jokes about the way I talk. A few, fine I...

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Self-Advocacy & BoundariesHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterJan 18, 2021
1 points

I really don't know how to handle these things without losing confidence or appearing rude. How do you exactly verbalise >you're pushing it respectfully< to a senior? And also how do you tell c...

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commentr/StutterJan 18, 2021
1 points

Employers/most, MOST co-workers won't care that you stutter. I've had a few coworkers that made comments. I told them to fuck off and went about my day. I didn't socialize with them after. By choice a...

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commentr/StutterJan 18, 2021
2 points

You can also disclose this information at the beginning of the interview too. “Before we start I’d like to let you know that I have a stutter, which means sometimes I repeat sounds, words, phrases and...

Coping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterJan 18, 2021
1 points

>coworkers, partners, etc should all understand Except the in the real work world, nobody will make any accomodations for me, like they do in the class. But you're right. The only way is to be str...

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commentr/StutterJan 18, 2021
1 points

I agree with everything that everyone has already said, and want to add to your comment about strong verbal communication. I am just starting my career as a teacher, and as a person who stutters, this...

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commentr/StutterJan 18, 2021
2 points

I had those same feelings. Basically the only people who are annoyed are ass holes and the only people who are inconvenienced are so self centered I don't give a heck what they think. Friends, cow...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesStigma & Bullying
commentr/StutterJan 18, 2021
18 points

When I read your message it felt very similar to my own experience, so I had to reply. What I have been doing lately and did in my last interview was come out and explain that I stutter at the first ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Preparation & RehearsalSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterJan 15, 2021
13 points

I held a discussion for an hour today

I held a discussion for an hour today I was so goddamn nervous, it started at monday. You know the brief feeling you have when you forget the thing you were nervous about, like "oh wasn't I supposed t...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
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commentr/StutterJan 11, 2021
2 points

I am 24 too ! I was scared of the phones but in July, I went abroad for a new job, and I have done two weeks in quarantine in an hotel where I should order my food by phone each day for the next day. ...

Coping & Advocacy
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJan 11, 2021
2 points

Really interesting question ! I cannot speak for him, because each stutterer and relation with a stutter is different. But I can still give you a point of view of a stutterer : On my side, I will f...

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commentr/StutterJan 10, 2021
1 points

Find a job tha requires it. I stutter and im Police officer which requires communication with people daily. And i say its best thing that happend to me because i was literally forced to get better at ...

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Self-Advocacy & BoundariesEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterJan 9, 2021
7 points

I recently joined the USMC with a stutter, and when I first got to Parris Island my stutter was so bad during receiving they pulled me off to the side.. down a long corridor to an office where I had a...

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