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commentr/StutterAug 11, 2017
2 points

Stuttering will never fail you. Only holding yourself back will. I work in a speaking job and stutter my butt off every day. All anyone cares about is you get the job done. They don't care if you drag...

School & WorkCoping & Advocacy
Employment & CareerSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterAug 9, 2017
5 points

Talk to the professor about it. I was in this position for a class. I talked to the professor and he let me present to him after class, 1 on 1. To be honest it was the worst decision I've ever made. ...

Coping & AdvocacySchool & Work
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commentr/StutterAug 8, 2017
2 points

I want to say that what you did a few months ago is pretty great. Gives me a little thrill that he can't even make eye contact with you now. Ha! It always sucks when we don't say what we want to i...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 8, 2017
3 points

I don't stand up so much as in get confrontational but I usually say "I stutter" very matter of factly and let the other person deal with the awkwardness they created. Very rarely, through my job I'v...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterAug 7, 2017
12 points

Should've stood up for us today.

Should've stood up for us today. I was lamenting about going to the dentist today with a co-worker and she brought up a previous dentist; how unprofessional he was. Then she added that he had a stamme...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilityCommunity & Support
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesStigma & BullyingValidation & Empathy
commentr/StutterAug 6, 2017
7 points

I know that feeling. I've been there, and I'm still there for the most part. Not sure if you've tried speech therapy, but that helps. Ultimately, just remember that people don't care when you stutte...

Community & SupportSchool & WorkCoping & Advocacy
Validation & EmpathyEmployment & CareerSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJul 29, 2017
3 points

If you find yourself getting stuck, just stop (rather than trying to brute force it) & say something along the lines of "oh, I have a stutter by the way so if I start sounding kinda crazy or whate...

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commentr/StutterJul 3, 2017
2 points

> I don't know why I'm so passionately angry about it. I think I'd be passionately angry too. For me, not having my feeling understood, especially by those closest to me, is something I can barel...

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commentr/StutterJun 19, 2017
2 points

I'm a woman with a stammer and .y boyfriend has always treated me as if I were not a stammerer. Sometimes he asks me 'are you having a bad day?' or 'did something happen?' when I'm really struggling. ...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships
Acceptance & PrideSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterJun 17, 2017
2 points

Thank you so much! I am used to being very direct at work and I expect the same from my colleagues, so this is an unusual situation for me. This gentleman gets very nervous and basically stops speakin...

Coping & AdvocacySchool & Work
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterJun 17, 2017
4 points

Group Home Administrator. Supervising Agency residents, Facility Staff, constant communication with therapists, psychiatrists, Social Workers, Attorneys, Parents, Licensing and I mentor the kids. Ever...

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commentr/StutterJun 17, 2017
1 points

That's such a great advice, thank you! He once seemed really hurt when my secretary complimented him on the improvement of his psoriasis and since then I have been afraid to make any comments on his s...

Coping & Advocacy
Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJun 17, 2017
2 points

Like somebody mentioned earlier, just treating him like a normal person will do wonders as it will alleviate stress that may exacerbate whatever stuttering habits he has. I think a lot of what stutter...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & RelationshipsCoping & Advocacy
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commentr/StutterJun 17, 2017
2 points

Thank you! I hope he does know he has a permission. I've always tried to support him to talk no matter what. And even though I have never addressed his issues specifically, he knows he can always conf...

Coping & Advocacy
Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJun 16, 2017
10 points

Personally, I want to be and be treated exactly like someone who doesn't stutter. I understand where you're coming from and why you would say you're proud of him but, as a stutterer, I can see how i...

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commentr/StutterJun 14, 2017
1 points

Breaks my heart. This is all the more reason you should seek a mental health expert. A good professional will be your ally and help you learn how to stand up for yourself and call out future abuse....

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Trauma & PsychologicalSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJun 14, 2017
2 points

Sure, it's taken the wrong way when one is already speaking/stuttering. It's such a personal thing to people and when anybody tells you to "slow down" then it can seem offensive. But, in hindsight, it...

Causes & VariabilityCoping & Advocacy
Stress & Fight/FlightSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJun 14, 2017
2 points

I just never really noticed anything was weird about all of the things I do while talking. I've only talked to one person about it, my roommate, which went like this: "Do I stutter?" "Yeah, sometimes...

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commentr/StutterJun 13, 2017
2 points

Sometimes it does make sense to ask for a difference in behavior, though. I've had some periods where I've informed people that they needn't try finishing my sentences, since I'll get to it eventually...

Coping & AdvocacySchool & Work
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesAccess & Rights
commentr/StutterJun 11, 2017
1 points

Good job you actually tried. Many would have avoided it completely. I suggest you try writing down your name and why you cannot say it and give it to the person next time. They will understand. This ...

Coping & AdvocacyTherapy & Professional
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesSeeking Therapy