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commentr/StutterJan 6, 2019
1 points

My stutter code name used to be Sean. It was nice and easy for me to say at places. It started to get weird when I'd be with someone I knew or the other person behind the counter has heard me say my r...

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commentr/StutterDec 31, 2018
1 points

I get what you mean. I see it both ways. Like I said I used to just giggle and walk away, but it would leave me feeling like shit literally all day long. I feel I’m on top of the world, speaking well,...

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commentr/StutterDec 31, 2018
0 points

I’m not trying to get her fired or anything but there’s no need for jokes in the work place. If I was hobbling would she say, ohhh can’t walk normal? If I were using a pole to walk would she say ohh c...

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commentr/StutterDec 31, 2018
2 points

Wow, you really went for the throat. I usually just inform them that I have a speech problem, they apologize, and then I say it's fine. I kind of have mixed feelings about what you did because if you ...

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commentr/StutterDec 30, 2018
2 points

At least you did it. Lol I remember when they told me to call a yard driver over the radio. Something like this “blah blah blah shipping do you copy” I couldn’t even say it I had to get one of my bu...

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commentr/StutterDec 28, 2018
3 points

I love these succes stories man! Damn 23 years? congratz!! I agree that telling someone is a great method to weed out the superficial folks but then again, no one likes rejection. But I'll bite the ...

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commentr/StutterDec 28, 2018
4 points

I did and I've been happily married for 23 years. Back in my day we had pagers (no cell phones) and she would page me and I would literally go into a full blown panic attack because of my stutter. ...

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commentr/StutterDec 27, 2018
3 points

Hubs and I have been married for nine years and married for 12. We met in college through the school paper but didn't start dating 'til we both graduated--we got drunk at a newspaper reunion and admit...

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commentr/StutterDec 24, 2018
3 points

Be open about it and don’t apologize for stuttering. I’ve found that being confident is very, very attractive to people. This strategy is pretty simple, but it seriously works like magic. ...

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commentr/StutterDec 23, 2018
7 points

I disagree, don’t ask your girlfriend if it’s meant to be a positive thing or not. It’s up to you! How does it make you feel when she says it? Personally when people tell me my stutter is cute it fe...

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commentr/StutterDec 21, 2018
2 points

Definitely tell her. I have found people don't treat me any differently when I am upfront about it, but instead it just makes me more comfortable and makes them more patient. ...

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commentr/StutterDec 21, 2018
1 points

Telling people I stutter helps me not stutter so if you can bring it up naturally then I say do so...

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commentr/StutterDec 21, 2018
13 points

Put it out there. Your stutter is part of you, you don't want to be with someone that is going to pre-judge you for it. Just be up front. If she has an issue with it then you've done yourself a fav...

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commentr/StutterDec 21, 2018
8 points

I had a bumble match un-match with me when I told her about my stutter before meeting her; but that just weeded out the asshole. I'm always up front about it...

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commentr/StutterDec 21, 2018
20 points

Tell her for sure, otherwise she'll just be confused when you do happen to stutter, maybe picking it up as you being nervous. Once you don't make it your main topic of conversation, just bring it up ...

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commentr/StutterDec 21, 2018
4 points

I’d say that you should. I can only speak from my own experience but I usually find that being open and honest about it comes off as being more confident - even if it wasn’t how I felt. Good luck on...

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commentr/StutterDec 16, 2018
1 points

It sounds difficult but sometimes I’ll start by saying “I might take a bit of time, I have a stutter”. Say it confidently. And do NOT apologize for yourself. Then you will feel freedom to speak. ...

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commentr/StutterDec 14, 2018
2 points

They are but I find owning your stutter helps. Take the steps you need/can to adapt to it and see it as a part of you. I realized that no matter how angry I was at my stutter it wouldn't make it go aw...

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commentr/StutterDec 12, 2018
1 points

Just gotta be confident in yourself. Fear of stuttering only perpetuates it my dude. Good luck. Went on job hunt for about 3 months and was totally open to all of them about my stutter. No offers. I...

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commentr/StutterDec 10, 2018
1 points

I’m still working on this myself but I’ve come to learn that the only way to get what I want is by asking for it, even if it takes way longer than it should or if I get dirty looks because of my stutt...

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