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commentr/StutterJun 21, 2020
3 points

Maybe everyone else was unsure how you wanted that situation to be handled? If you don't want to be the one to explain it, you could preemptively pull a trusted family member aside and ask them to edu...

Parent & CaregiverCoping & Advocacy
Home SupportSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJun 20, 2020
3 points

I should try talking to them directly. I was hoping that sm1 would step in at the time. no one did. I should do it myself. and thank you!...

Coping & Advocacy
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesMindset shift
commentr/StutterJun 19, 2020
1 points

I recommend letting each interviewer know that you have a stutter in advance of the interview - and that if this is a problem or disqualifies you, they can pass on the interview. I don't know what to ...

Coping & AdvocacySchool & Work
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterJun 19, 2020
1 points

One day at a job forum, I met a recruiter and she adviced me to never tell to recuiters that I stutter, because I need to be confident, my stutter will not impact my job, people will just need to wai...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentMindset shift+1 more
commentr/StutterJun 19, 2020
2 points

I guess I can understand that. You just have to be more patient. And if you can work on it or at least find ways to minimize it, it should lead to more self confindence. I am sure you will find someo...

Coping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships
Fluency TechniquesSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesDating & Romance
commentr/StutterJun 19, 2020
2 points

Yep I agree. And you are welcome. I think I would say the same if I didn't have stutter issues (I am a guy tho). And I feel that people that care about that, they are making the person who stutters a ...

Coping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesDating & Romance
commentr/StutterJun 19, 2020
2 points

Depending on the situation I do like to mention it beforehand, like in a job interview. I feel it puts me in control of the situation, and I feel a lot more comfortable when I start stuttering, becaus...

Social & RelationshipsCoping & Advocacy
Disclosure & Telling OthersSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJun 18, 2020
2 points

Personally I believe it’s A) None of their business. And B) They can figure it out for themselves and ask me if they really want to know....

Coping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterJun 18, 2020
9 points

As a person who stutters, you are protected under the ADA (I’m assuming you live in the US, I apologize if you don’t). If you are fired because you stutter, as long as the company hired you knowing t...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesHope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterJun 15, 2020
1 points

Yeah, this thread shows there's enough variance. People can't be expected to automatically know your preference for finishing our not. Just as it's important for them to ask when it comes up, it's als...

Social & RelationshipsCoping & Advocacy
Listener ReactionsSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJun 15, 2020
1 points

The fact that preference varies just shows how important it is to treat people with stutters as individuals. There's no one-size-fits-all strategy. You have to learn what each individual wants. For t...

Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Listener ReactionsAvoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
postr/StutterJun 15, 2020
103 points

I think one of the worst things about having a stutter is not being about to defend yourself verbally.

I think one of the worst things about having a stutter is not being about to defend yourself verbally. And worse if you are laughed at while putting your point across. It hurts so much how some peopl...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesFrustration & AngerStigma & Bullying
commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
3 points

I dont actually know if i like it. Its nice because i dont have to half pass out trying to say something, but it can come off as them looking like they dont care enough about what im telling them to w...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Acceptance & PrideSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
2 points

If its obvious what I’m trying to say and I’m at the end I appreciate help. But to constantly get it and people guessing what I’m trying to say would be offensive, thankfully that has not happened yet...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
3 points

No, i'll rather do it myself by taking a deep breath and saying it. I don't mind if people finish it for me but it feels good when I can actually do it myself. Cheers....

Coping & AdvocacySpeech & Stuttering
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesBlocks & Stoppages
commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
2 points

Personally, I hate when people finish words for me. It’s disrespectful and actually can make the stutter worse, as I feel rushed and on edge....

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
2 points

I love it. If you know what I’m trying to say please don’t stand there staring at me while I’m about to pass out trying to say it....

Coping & Advocacy
Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
4 points

I always let stutterers finish but sometimes my husband or his brother will stop and gesture like “finish” or “help me out” and I’ll say it....

Coping & Advocacy
Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
14 points

Usually when they finish my word, I say it after easily dunno why, but I say it just to show them that I can....

Coping & AdvocacySpeech & Stuttering
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesBlocks & Stoppages
commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
2 points

It's not my favorite thing but honestly sometimes it's helpful and I allow it to relieve some of the pressure that i'm feeling to get the words out. However, I do always finish my words, but I definit...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesFrustration & AngerMindfulness & Breathing