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commentr/StutterSep 4, 2020
9 points

From a 29 year old who's had all the bad experiences that come with stuttering, they sound jealous. And I'm not saying that just because I can, girls have this very weird way of picking on people they...

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commentr/StutterSep 4, 2020
3 points

I would ignore them. If they say it again, explain that's its a speech impediment that you have zero control over. If they keep bothering you after that, they're assholes....

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commentr/StutterSep 4, 2020
15 points

They are just assholes. Come up with a good line to tell to them, to make them rethink they're decisions and make them feel like they're assholes....

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commentr/StutterSep 3, 2020
3 points

I just feel sorry for people that mock myself and others with a speech impediment. Not even worth your time....

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commentr/StutterSep 3, 2020
5 points

As an adult, you don't face many actual bullies. You just face assholes you can actually call out. And that's exactly what I do. I pause, and ask them "Do you realize how rude you just were?". Anyone...

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commentr/StutterSep 2, 2020
7 points

Don’t be scared. You will be put into a bunch of uncomfortable situations but if you persist those uncomfortable situations will become comfortable and you will do things you were never thought you wo...

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commentr/StutterSep 2, 2020
1 points

I’m 37 and I stutter once or twice everyday. I work in a maximum security prison and I have to talk and give directives to the offenders (serial killers, rapists, child molesters, bank robbers, pimps ...

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commentr/StutterSep 1, 2020
1 points

I muster up the courage to tell people I have a stutter and 9/10 times they say they didn’t even know and if they’re a good friend they usually think I’m fucking with them haha...

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commentr/StutterSep 1, 2020
1 points

My experience with the same things was that i just told everybody. My boss didnt care about it and even stood up for me when someone had a comment on it. In all my relationships i told them that i s...

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commentr/StutterSep 1, 2020
1 points

Just looking at your old posts, I presume you’re in the U.K., of course the NHS offer Speech Language Therapy. Last time I enquired it was around a 4 month wait list - might as well apply whilst you’r...

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commentr/StutterSep 1, 2020
1 points

Thank you all! I appreciate your positive vibes and support! I think I should listen to your advice and just address stutter before the interview. Although is very hard for me to do this, because I di...

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commentr/StutterAug 31, 2020
1 points

That’s a valid point!!! I definitely don’t want to be treated differently because of my stutter :/ I think I’ll end up ending it if I feel any type of pity. Do you recommend I shouldn’t make a big dea...

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commentr/StutterAug 31, 2020
3 points

Been there. It sucks. I once had a guy straight up stand up and leave a talk I was giving as part of a job interview. I know it sounds crazy, but it might help to talk about it right at the start...

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commentr/StutterAug 27, 2020
3 points

you would have not posted if everything when alright when you read the book? the way you react might determine how you feel about it overall. seeking relief by reading a book to people that to be hon...

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commentr/StutterAug 27, 2020
3 points

You reacted the most natural way possible so it’s fine. I’m sure your non ignorant friends will get it. I would’ve done the same. It’s just so frustrating that people take advantage of the fact that y...

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commentr/StutterAug 27, 2020
2 points

Thank you for saying that, you have my support as well, and fuck people, whether they understand it or not, we should only focus on ourselves and ignore their perception, again, you have all my suppor...

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commentr/StutterAug 27, 2020
1 points

Old timers are not aware of what they’re doing to us, we shouldn’t lose more time blaming them or thinking about them, it’s time to focus on ourselves and get better, thanks for your support, you have...

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commentr/StutterAug 27, 2020
28 points

Hey. Don’t give up. Email them and tell them you’ve got a stutter and video calls make it a little worse. Ask for another shot. Then practice the video calls with someone before. I’ll help....

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commentr/StutterAug 27, 2020
8 points

In my experience , I get personal satisfaction when I tell someone that I stutter and that I have overcame major obstacles like public speaking or holding a job. I at least feel that the person I’m ta...

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commentr/StutterAug 26, 2020
1 points

Maybe ask your lecturer before the introduction but I could see that telling everyone will make them feel comfortable and you more at ease - probably meaning less of a stutter. Hope it goes well an...

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