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commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
2 points

I actually hate when people finish my words for me. It's more important to me that I say what I want to say than if I don't stutter...

Coping & Advocacy
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commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
2 points

I let people finish the words if they want, but I make a point of finishing the words myself too. I mean, they're free to do that, while I work my way towards the same result. It's not always they get...

Coping & AdvocacySpeech & Stuttering
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commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
26 points

I’m the exact opposite, I’m very offended when people finish my sentences for me. To the point where I actually bought a had that says “don’t finish my sentences for me”. I get they’re just trying to ...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
3 points

For me it like all depends on the person. Like if I’m with family or friends, I’d rather them be more patient, because stuttering is a part of who I am and the only way to improve is to accept it an...

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Acceptance & PrideSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJun 11, 2020
7 points

Welcome to the sub! Congrats on having a positive attitude even in the face of tough situations - we all know that it isn't easy. I hear you on the interview situations. I'm 37m in the software engi...

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commentr/StutterJun 10, 2020
2 points

I see that I’m a little late to the party, but I would simply tell the person conducting the interview that you have a speech disfluency and wanted to bring it to their attention. I wouldn’t make a hu...

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commentr/StutterJun 10, 2020
2 points

This is a very good question. I have worked in finance for ten years and have gone through a lot of interviews. I never told anyone I stutter, except once. I usually stuttered significantly during the...

School & WorkAnticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
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commentr/StutterJun 10, 2020
2 points

As an older gentleman, let me give you my perspective, tho of course your mileage may vary. To start: Do I have trouble accepting myself and my stutter? Every. Fucking. Day. And that's fine. I've come...

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commentr/StutterJun 10, 2020
1 points

I have problems with seven too. And twenty. And zero. I can be successful if I get a running start at it ( your total is seventeen dollars) or if I prolong the S out a little longer than normal. Somet...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSpeech & StutteringCoping & Advocacy
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commentr/StutterJun 10, 2020
2 points

I'd like to add this as the most important DO: It's okay to ask about their stutter. I've had a lot of positive interactions with friends, family and co-workers who just asked about it. Why, when, ho...

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commentr/StutterJun 9, 2020
2 points

Ok thanks, I do not get why people would say i stutter also when they do not. So I should not mention it at all unless the conversation naturally drifts to that topic?...

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Validation & EmpathySelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJun 9, 2020
5 points

Off the top of my head. DO: * Allow them the space/time to talk, say "Take your time". * Complement them on other things other than speech. * Stay engaged with the conversation. * Try to maintain ey...

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commentr/StutterJun 8, 2020
3 points

i am a college professor with a mild stutter. i have stuttered for as long as i can remember and it has always been a source of shame for me. i never sought professional help for my stutter, which i r...

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commentr/StutterJun 8, 2020
2 points

I have had a stutter for as long as I can remember. I have never had any therapy for this but learnt myself to cope with it. It has gotten better over the years, but its still a daily challenge. I hav...

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commentr/StutterJun 6, 2020
5 points

Personally one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned from having a stutter is to have patience and compassion for others. I’ve been able to empathize with people who struggle and I always try to listen ...

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commentr/StutterJun 6, 2020
3 points

I did at my first interview. express confidence in yourself even with your stutter. you got this king never hold yourself back!...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterJun 6, 2020
4 points

You should definitely tell him! That's who you are, and you have no reason to hide it or be ashamed of. Show him its there, but that it doesn't prevent you from doing your job and be smart and everyth...

Social & RelationshipsCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 6, 2020
22 points

If you can I would. I find it not only decreases my anxiety and increases my fluency, it’s a good talking point. Employers want to know that you’re aware of your strengths/weaknesses, convert your sta...

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commentr/StutterJun 5, 2020
3 points

Having a background in human resources and having a stuttter for 45 years, disclose before it starts that way you take back the power and then you move on with the interview. By disclosing, you show...

Social & RelationshipsCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 5, 2020
7 points

Make a joke out of it casually after they ask you to talk about yourself. Something like "By the way, just so you know, if I stutter, it's because I have a stutter. Not because I'm nervous. Well, not ...

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