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commentr/StutterAug 22, 2022
3 points

And get ready to say "let him finish" to whoever is interrupting him. If you hear him say something offensive, you still have to let him finish. You can call him out after hearing the complete messag...

Coping & Advocacy
Self-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterAug 22, 2022
2 points

My gf and I have been together 5 years now. And she knows my words or letters that I have trouble with. So if I just completely skip a word she can fill in the blanks. It took a good long conversation...

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commentr/StutterAug 22, 2022
2 points

Personally I don't like to be helped unless I ask. There is nothing more frustrating than someone telling me to 'slow down' or 'breathe' or try to guess which word I'm trying to use which just makes t...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterAug 22, 2022
5 points

That’s exactly what I was thinking. Disclosing your stutter from the moment you send your resume could avoid these kind of situations, because (just to be fair) they did not see it coming. There is ...

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Disclosure & Telling OthersEmployment & CareerSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterAug 21, 2022
3 points

Don’t ever have a concerned look on your face because that will just make them feel uncomfortable. Don’t try to comfort them while stuttering because that will just make them feel dependent. Which wil...

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Validation & EmpathySelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterAug 21, 2022
13 points

I think you need to disclose right at the start of the interview because it will settle any misunderstandings, and actually make you look proactive. Just be like, “Btw, I do stutter sometimes. I do ...

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commentr/StutterAug 21, 2022
4 points

Be honest. if you have questions for him, ask. Try not to be overly helpful. If you wouldn't interrupt or finish someone else's sentences, don't do that for / to him. But be yourself. Sounds like t...

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Validation & EmpathySelf-Advocacy & BoundariesShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterAug 21, 2022
14 points

Never say "think about what you want to say, before you say it." Never finish their words or sentences for them, unless they ask you to: and don't ask them if you need to, because they might feel pres...

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commentr/StutterAug 21, 2022
1 points

In my case...after the group discussion was over, I had stayed back to inform him that I had a stammering problem. But he didn't allow me to speak and went on to "professionally" ridicule me and asked...

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Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries+2 more
commentr/StutterAug 21, 2022
1 points

In my case...after the group discussion was over, I had stayed back to inform him that I had a stammering problem. But he didn't allow me to speak and went on to "professionally" ridicule me and asked...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
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commentr/StutterAug 21, 2022
5 points

I did feel bad for a bit but my teacher said he also had a stutter and no one should be embarrassed to stutter in his class so that didn’t make feel bad...

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commentr/StutterAug 21, 2022
1 points

There’s a massive amount of anecdotal evidence and formal evidence to suggest this is true. Where have you done your research? As I’ve been saying, stuttering occurs bc a variety of factors. I diffe...

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commentr/StutterAug 21, 2022
2 points

*"Blocks happen bc you are trying too hard to avoid stuttering. Alcohol simply makes you try less harder."* There's no evidence to suggest this is true. If this is the case why did I start stutteri...

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Genetic & Family FactorsTrauma & PsychologicalSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries+2 more
commentr/StutterAug 21, 2022
1 points

Do you remember me as the person who keeps suggesting *to disclose your speech difficulties* at beginning of exchanges. Find a few ways to say it and include a slight description, rather than just us...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyMeds & Substances
Avoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesRecreationa substances (e.g. Alcohol, Cannabis)+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 21, 2022
0 points

You hope to someday “feel better about yourself” by making nasty faces to people who have absolutely no way of knowing why words aren’t coming out?? Bad blocks come from *trying to hide your stutter/...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 21, 2022
2 points

Years back I wanted to do architecture. Mainly because I thought I'd be "drawing" alot. And to my surprise. Architecture requires ALOT of talking. With clients, designers etc. And it's stressful other...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesMedicalization / Neurodiversity+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 21, 2022
1 points

Before job interviews or important meetings I always disclose my stutter It helps with my nerves and makes me feel comfortable If I were in your position, I would let them know whether in the fi...

Coping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterAug 21, 2022
2 points

Thanks mate. Yeah I've always made it a point to let my line manager and only my close colleagues know that I've got a stutter. This new project requires me to work in a new "mission" team, comprise...

Coping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterAug 21, 2022
8 points

Just do it I know it's scary, but there's no other way than to conquer your fear You can do it, my friend The right employer will look past your stutter...

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Self-Advocacy & BoundariesEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterAug 21, 2022
1 points

First of all, congrats on the promotion I'm not a lead developer, so I can't comment on leading people But I reckon the same thing applies Keep talking, and don't be too hard on yourself Let y...

Coping & AdvocacySchool & Work
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesEmployment & Career