> I'd be interested to know how people react to this. your description is really positive and heartfelt. however, one of the reasons a stutter is such a pain in the ass is the concern (I am not sure if its a legitimate concern or not, but it is there) that you are not taken seriously and using words like "cute" or "adorable" can be easily taken as dismissive. > Maybe another reason is that I admire it, precisely because I am aware of the struggle and unhappiness that people go through because of it. At the moment, I have one friend who's about to start training to be a teacher, and another one who's planning to give a presentation at a conference for the first time. In both cases, I know how difficult it's been for them to reach this point, and the admiration I feel for their victory is really intense. you feel admiration because your friends were able to find a job? that *is* condescending. They are just trying to make rent and you see it as some sort of great accomplishment? I know you dont mean it that way and I am putting words in your mouth but you can probably see where I am coming from with this. Living your daily life is not a "victory," its doing what you have to do. there is a great [TED talk about "inspiration porn"](https://www.ted.com/talks/stella_young_i_m_not_your_inspiration_thank_you_very_much?language=en) and she is much better at expressing this idea than I am. (edit: phrasing)