postr/StutterDecember 4, 2025

21M Stammering + severe anxiety + depression destroyed my confidence after joining college .Need real advice

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21M Stammering + severe anxiety + depression destroyed my confidence after joining college .Need real advice I am a 21-year-old CS student. Till class 12th I had only had very mild stuttering (once in a month, negligible). The moment I entered college ,everything collapsed within 2–3 weeks: * Suddenly surrounded by very good-looking * Got one-sidedly rejected/bad heartbreak * Started feeling ugly, poor, worthless → social anxiety exploded * Stammering went from 1 % to 80–90 % * Can’t even order food, answer in class, talk to girls, or sometimes even say my own name without blocking * Attention span destroyed, severe procrastination, feel like I have ADHD symptoms too * Went into depression, lost all motivation and confidence It’s been 3+ years. I know I have huge potential — I still dream of building my own startup but right now I feel completely worthless and stuck. Has anyone come out of something like this? Especially people who developed severe stuttering because of anxiety in college and then recovered? I want to: * Reduce my stammering to a manageable level * Kill this constant anxiety and overthinking * Get my focus and confidence back * Restart my coding and startup journey Please suggest practical steps that actually worked for you I just want my life back. Any help means the world to me right now. Thank you.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience

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Hiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & MonitoringStress & Fight/FlightAnxiety & Social JudgmentSadness & HopelessnessHelplessness & Agency

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