commentr/StutterMarch 23, 2014

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Hey Aidan, good to have you here! First of all, let me tell you that I completely understand what you're going through. I'm almost 30 and I've been stuttering ever since I can remember. Primary school sucked - I was teased and teased, and couldn't wait to get out. High school was better, but I was very closed up and had a fear of speaking. I asked my teachers to take written exams when possible and generally they understood. Speech therapy is a good thing, and you shouldn't give up on it. I'm not sure of the costs over there (wherever you are), but at least try to learn as much as you can from it. The thing that worked best for me was to record myself reading and then play the recording back. It helped me identify trouble spots, combinations that are problematic, etc. It helped me to better understand my stutter, and as such, work around or through it. Your stuttering is not the end of the world. Far from it. It's a condition that we have to live with, one way or another, for the rest of our lives. There are some things that really, really bother me - like people interrupting me and finishing my word mid-stutter, etc. It's better to just talk things through with your parents because the reality is - they want to help, and they might think they understand and know better than you - but they don't. Nobody does. Each of our stutters is unique and we all react to different triggers and situations. You, and only you really understand your stutter - and yes, you need all the help & support you can get, but only you really know what it's like. I've learned to work around my stutter to the point where most people don't notice it. "Filler" sounds are not the solution. They are a temporary solution, but they are noticeable. A technique that works for me is to substitute words with synonyms. So for example, if I notice that I'm about to get stuck on "Garden" (and with time, you'll learn to recognize when you're about to get stuck), I'll replace the word with "Yard." Not the most elegant solution, but it works. Again, try to avoid "filler" sounds and replace them with words. As I said, I'm 29. I finished college and got my masters degree. I've been freelancing as a designer & developer for a few years now and I run an automotive website. I have constant communication with people, and it's this communication that forced me to actually understand my stutter and "defeat" it. For the past 3 years I've been teaching a few courses at a local informal IT college. Twice a week I hold lectures in front of ~25 people. Don't hold yourself back - it's the worst thing you can do.

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Community & SupportTherapy & ProfessionalAnticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy

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Personal StoriesSeeking TherapyTherapy ExperiencesPositive Therapy TechniquesAvoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries