commentr/StutterApril 27, 2014

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Exactly this, one day at a time, look for things that make you happy, because happy is often comfortable and comfortability is the key to fluency. I am in college and it's definitely hard to start conversations, but it's even harder to sustain a conversation and just talk to someone; I know because I have humiliated myself (at least i felt that way) and was in some pretty awkward situations with girls I would hang out with. I know it hurts; not physically, but goddamn the tole stuttering takes is difficult to manage at times. My advice; exercise. I have been going on long walks and when I get back to campus I am energized and confident. I do well in conversations and I try to be outgoing. On the other hand, on bad days I seclude myself and alienate my friends. Like jcmancin said, it's one day at a time. Good days will arise, bad days will persist. In the end we have no control, but we can control how we react and how we adjust. This is key. Make good habits and find ways to feel more confident. I wish you all the luck my friend and don't worry, you can make connections whilst having a stutter. You just gotta reach out, act like no one cares (by not caring yourself) and just go with the flow. If you're interrupted or embarrassed...at least you gave it a shot and in a week's time; no one will be dwelling or thinking about certain situations that made you feel bad. Once again good luck and sorry for the lengthy, redundant response.

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Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

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Mindfulness & BreathingHope & MotivationAcceptance & Pride