commentr/StutterNovember 20, 2014

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I don't know how much you stutter, i stuttered less in front of people i cared about and i was comfortable being with (it still stuttered pretty much, but i could express myself). I guess another big part for my stutter to get better (and my confidence) was my caring and loving family, that always supported me, i also had two really good friends that helped me. I can't image how hard it would have been without my family or my friends. >None of it had any lasting effect for me. Has anything, of the things you tried, had an short term effect? >How would you stay positive and keep hope that it will one day get better if you would be in my shoes? Very hard question. Maybe my stutter returns tomorrow, too. We have to make the best out of what we have to deal with. A negative attitude will only make it worse. I found that making sport (gym) raised my morale (even if i don't go to the gym as often as i should). I also listen to a lot of music that relaxes me and makes me feel better (it's power/folk/death metal for me, as strange as it sounds). Don't burrow yourself in negativity. As hard as it is, try to smile a lot, your mood will brighten up. I know it sounds cheesy, but that's what helped me. I'm am not by any means unaffected by my past stuttering, i still have social anxiety and can't easily make friends or ask girls out, even if i don't stutter in these situations anymore. But i try to be spontaneous and do things even not social anxiety people wouldn't normally do, even if it makes me highly uncomfortable. This year i drove alone to a festival (Wacken) and just tried to met new people, i had a pretty good time (alcohol helps a lot making friends :) ). I wish you the very best for your future. If i can do anything to make you feel better, just ask.

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Community & SupportEmotional ExperienceSocial & RelationshipsCauses & VariabilityMeds & Substances

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Validation & EmpathyHope & MotivationFriendships & BelongingFamily Support & ConflictEnergy & Biological RhythmsRecreationa substances (e.g. Alcohol, Cannabis)

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emotional_stateperceived_judgment