commentr/StutterFebruary 14, 2014

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Wrote this awhile back, but it still applies. As someone who works virtually from my home as a Project manager across several clients for a HR company I totally understand how this feels like. I used to have a noticeable stutter, and found that it was magnified in certain situations in life, like conference calls and group chats. I would be totally fine talking to people face to face, but speaking to a disembodied faceless voice on the speaker used to drive my stutter into overdrive. Here are some ways I found to cope with the stutter: - When talking to a person face to face, there are natural pauses in the conversation that you can anticipate from body language, gestures, and looking at the person talking. This is made harder when talking to someone on the phone. Periods where there are no people talking and just 'white noise' feel very awkward. Fight the urge to speak in these situations unless you know what train of thought you are going to go with. My stuttering seemed to get worse when I just started talking without any objective, and my mouth could not catch up with what my brain was trying to say. Think of your speaking like a train going down a track. Your mind has to first 'lay down the rail', so to speak, in ideas and thoughts and the train, your motor skills in speaking, will then be able to glide down the track. So before breaking the silence in those moments on the phone, just quickly anticipate what general 'idea' you want to convey and you will find your speech is more organized. - Going with the theme above, just because you are speaking off the cuff in an informal group setting doesn't mean that you can come ill prepared. I treat all speaking engagements I have as if they were serious. Before the meeting, make a quick outline, list or notes highlighting the key discussion points. Give it as much structure as possible. For me I rarely stutter when I have to read out out from written notes. If you feel yourself beginning to falter, read from one of the written texts from your notes, give yourself a moment, pause, regain your composure and continue. People will notice open stuttering, but a thoughtful pause only makes it seem like you are taking this seriously... a good thing. Oh and the obsession with writing down notes, people will only assume you as attentive to your details after the meetings as you are during them. - I know this has been said before, but learn to speak as the same speed as you would when speaking naturally to a live person. There is a tendency for people on the phone to begin to 'mirror' each others speaking tonalities as is the case when they cannot see each other. For people who don't stutter, this is not an issue...but if you try to match the speed of speech with someone on the other line, you are bound to run into trouble. Instead, speak at a comfortable, deliberate pace that you are used to and let THEM match you at your speed. Above all be confident, embrace pauses in the conversation, and just relax. Remember to smile too, that shows up in the voice they hear in the other end. Good luck!

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy

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Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringPreparation & RehearsalFluency Techniques

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