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My stutter life - in a nut shell First of all, I'm a severe stutterer. Unlike most stutterers, I always stutter the most out of all PWS in group therapies. I stutter on every word or letter. ​ 1. Whole my life I always stuttered the same amount in any situation, whenever I'm alone or with people I stuttered in the same intensity/amount. But in University I tried different mental approaches like 'changing conditions that lead up to a stutter anticipation'. My stutter condition (from the old habit) is: I must proof myself that I'm a stutterer. From 3 years old I have been forcing myself to love stuttering (to avoid depression). So until today, I have this strong will and motivation to do the stutter habit. ​ So in University I tried to change my reasons and conditions (that lead up to a stutter anticipation). Once I changed it temporarily for a specific situation, then I spoke stutter-free. It only works temporarily, again same reason because I have brainwashed myself to love stuttering. ​ I experienced that some conditions are more reliable than others. I always stutter when I'm alone. But in University I tried out this condition: "It makes sense to speak fluently when I'm alone". After a while by repeating this in my mind, it worked. Because I spoke fluently without fluency technique just like a non-stutterer, when I'm alone. The trick was to visualize that 'it makes sense to speak fluently' which is basically confidence, right? So if we somehow - can nurture this confidence feeling - maybe we can remove our stuttering completely in all situations? Never give up on progress! ​ 2. In University: I taught myself to speak without compulsion. By choosing. So in practice, I tell myself: "right now, with this professor or classmate I will choose to speak stutter-free". And it worked, I completely spoke stutter-free if I create a condition. Sometimes I speak stutter-free with a classmate for 60 minutes non-stop talking. Also, this choose-method is not reliable because from when I was 3 years old I brainwashed myself to love stuttering (in order to not be depressed). Therefore I accepted stuttering and was proud of stuttering. ​ 3. I tried out a new technique by visualizing that I am alone, while speaking to someone with eyes closed. The positive effect is, I don't do compulsion. The negative effect is that I need to 'visualize' that I'm alone when speaking to someone. So I created a step 2 to speak to someone with eyes open when visualizing. Important: I created a confident feeling. Step 3 was to speak to someone without visualizing and only using the confident feeling. Whenever I stuttered, I went to the previous step. Conclusion: whenever I reached step 3 and spoke fluently for 30 minutes, I started stuttering after that and then I returned to step 2. In my experience it's duable with a speaking partner to make progress. I think the trick is in the confidence feeling. What are your experiences with building confidence where you believe you can speak without compulsion? ​ \\\_\\\_\\\_\\\_\\\_\\\_ Final conclusion: In my opinion, it's 1% of fear that leads to a stutter anticipation, and 99% of discipline issues, confidence issues, identity issues. Discipline meaning: I'm not ready or interested to stop compulsion (I justify compulsion) Confidence meaning: not believing (in progress that) I can stop compulsion Identity meaning: I label myself as a person who (sometimes) stutters, speaking is my way of speaking, it's okay to stutter, etc etc. In my experience, these lead to expecting a stutter and then giving up on stopping compulsion.