commentr/StutterJune 4, 2024

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Let me start with something I have said here before. *Do not let your stutter make decisions for you.* You will be miserable if your stutter is a factor in decisions, let alone life decisions. I have much more to say on this point, but I don't want to digress from the topic at hand. Next. I'm the parent of a child with special needs. As such, we belong to a community of special needs families. I've come to know several dozen special needs children and their parents. Many of these people were advised to terminate pregnancies. Obviously, they chose not to. While life can be challenging for these families, these are some amazing young people. Adversity reveals strength. (FWIW, I am pro-choice. One’s body is inviolable, subject to one’s own will alone.) I work in the school system. As such, I work with a broad range of students. From the best and brightest to the severely disabled. I cannot fathom anyone ever making the recommendation someone does not conceive children because of a stutter. Stuttering is treatable for many. It's difficult for many of us to find an effective program. And too many of us give up on becoming more fluent because we've not had the right opportunities. But it differs from autism or Down syndrome in that many stutters can become fluent. *But that isn't to say that people with more severe disabilities have any less rights than you or I.* I just loathe comparisons between stuttering and other disabilities. I've got a lot of hate here for my opinions on this... so be it. If one finds their stutter debilitating, they have some work to do. Whether it's improving their fluency, or working on their acceptance of their stutter, there's progress they can achieve. Ideally, they can improve both. I'll always be a stutterer, but I don't always have to stutter. I worked hard for my fluency. The families and students I know work very hard and endure a lot. Much harder than I worked for my fluency. And endure much more than my stutter ever put upon me. And I was a severe stutterer. My child (16) has to put forth more effort in his daily life for everyday tasks than an able-bodied person. But I'll never forget what his neurosurgeon told me after his surgery at two days old when I asked him "Is he all there upstairs?" Dr. Z didn't hesitate when he said "Your son is going to pay taxes just the same as you and me." Never have I heard sweeter words.

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Identity & DisabilityParent & Caregiver

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Acceptance & PrideMedicalization / NeurodiversityHome Support