There is no formula to stuttering or dating, thats incel thinking and it'll do a lot more harm to your ability to be happy, make friends, or date than any disability. The truth is I and a ton of people in and outside the community have felt like you do because stuttering intersects with both mental health and various other ways we are all alienated by the modern world. The best anyone can do is accept their stutter, get what help they can for their mental health, and try to let go of their resentment and expectations. You're going to meet plenty of people who are just as scared of being awkward or connecting with you as you are with them.