Also, as Tina denied the words, and I sent him the above, he replied to me with the below: “Your reply seems contradictory, “Maria” (note: I changed the name). Nevertheless, since Tina denied everything she has been blamed for (and since you explicitly take all the blame yourself in Tina’s presence), then I can only presume that the accusations against Tina in relation to my stuttering were lies of yours. Hence, the following paragraphs are based on this notion. Prior to thanking you for your consequential apology, Maria, I wish to walk us through the following. You say “its too childish for me to even acknowledge the fact that you from a very disciplined family…accuse me and Tina of someone’s health just by words” As yourself Maria was also brought up from a family with the same values as mine, you should know that health is not only physical, but mental as well (based on my own personal experience and many others). Suggesting otherwise is unfair. As a very knowledgeable and clever person that I know you are Maria, I am sure you are aware of situations (either personal or in writing) where psychological imbalances brought adverse effects into people’s health and lives (to a very significant extent at times). I was blessed enough to have had people – family, friends and doctors – in my life who supported me throughout and, hence, here I am (where I used to be back in my early 20s; hence wanting to bring closure to this). You have never been in my situation and clearly if you were to have a disability similar to mine, you would realise that those words that came out of your mouth eventually “Andrew always sits like an idiot on the corner and whenever he opens his mouth to talk I cannot understand a word of what he says as he doesn’t know how to speak like normal people” were very very abusive. Nevertheless, your statement “I can see now that I caused a lot of damage” is enough for me to understand your sincere apology and, again, I thank you for that. Speech Disorders (i.e. Stuttering) should never be mocked at. Instead, Maria, you should feel blessed with talking fluently (and not having any other disorders and disabilities). You should recognize it as a gift, as not all people have that virtue. Just like you wouldn’t mock someone who is blind, disabled, deaf and so forth, you shouldn’t mock anyone who stutters; stuttering is disability in its own right. And yes evidence suggests so that people with such – or similar – disability do get affected. So I hope you realise the severity you caused when you made up this story of yours. Further, you say “And because I wanna be the bigger person…” and there comes your apology. Maria, I don’t think that apologizing to me (for your eventual lies) makes you a “bigger person”, as you exclaimed; rather, it makes you a RIGHT person. … and if this apology was to come well in advance, then I wouldn’t have been standing here – so many years later as you said – sending all of these messages and hence reading your accusations about wanting to “collapse” your friendship with Tina. Your accusation anyway doesn’t hold since I have had no idea on whether you two were still friends. But even if I knew, then again this would not have deterred me asking for an apology (an apology which has been asked numerous times by Tina herself, misbelieving that it was her who said those cruel things about my speech disorder… so yes, if you were to have approached me sooner in admitting your lies and hence apologizing to me, I wouldn’t have been dragging this whole situation for so long and therefore standing here today again). Hence, clearly, this chat has been developed with the sole aim of unfolding the whole truth and believe I had every right to initiate this. Moreover, I have never threatened neither you nor Tina; the fact that I asked for my mum’s presence in a potential subsequent meeting is because, as I explicitly noted in a prior message, her presence would provide me – with the security at least – that any possible misinformation would not be conveyed to others thereafter; and based on your today’s apology, Maria, which clearly suggests that you have indeed provided us with misinformation in relation to my stuttering back then, you shouldn’t have questioned this altogether. Further, you said “If I ever said anything to you is because you wanted confirmation about it”. Exactly, Maria, I wanted confirmation, not misinformation. I did appreciate all of the things you disclosed to me confidentially back then. The only thing which to be honest I didn’t appreciate receiving from you as a friend is the one relating to my stuttering; the latter of which acted towards the deterioration in my health. Hence, the moment where I started questioning your friendship and hence perceiving your friendship to be taking a downward road is where I realized that you hadn’t stood up for me that single moment when Tina used those cruel words against me (nevertheless, only now do I realize that the reason you haven’t stood up for me is because you made this up yourself as you indirectly said)… Nevertheless, I am not blaming you any longer, since you admitted your lie and, above all, apologized to me. It is this single apology that I was looking for the entire time Maria. I don’t think that asking for an apology undermines my “good heart” or my “smart thinking” – as you implied – to any extent (neither do these last few sharp messages of mine; clearly these messages convey a person desperately seeking for the truth and, as I said, a sincere apology which I believed I deserved). And since you admitted that you lied to us in my opinion you should have completely neglected this offensive sentence. To finalise this, and bring closure I want to state while you were progressing on with your lives the last 3 years for me were inactive. And this is why I did not come forward earlier with this. As stated in my very first message, I have only recently finished with my last medical treatment which has given me the strength to come forward. Therefore Maria, the fact that this may seem a long time for you, the same did not go for me. I thank you again for the apology as this brings a closure to a chapter of my life which I wish to forget. This is the last time I disturb you with this. Similarly, I expect the same from you all. Neither electronically, nor physically, will this topic be initiated or developed again. Your sincere apology Maria unfolded the truth and brought an end to this issue. An issue which would have never been created had you been truthful from the beginning (thus avoiding the disruption to not only myself but to my family also). I now withdraw from this chat; your reply Maria unfolded the truth and there is no reason to continue this further, as all I have ever wanted other than an explanation was an apology which I believe I deserved”. The above was his reply … he even apologised to Tina privately for wrongly accusing her, because I decide to end this by taking the blame on me. I don’t know how he would feel now that he would see that post the group chat he created Tina and myself are still friends, but I think things really should be held to the past.. we all make mistakes.