See even within stutterer, some has worse life, example op has, you and I got good friends and family who support us but she doesn't have that in her life. So please don't say "don't make it a very big deal" How do you make it sense to her when she doesn't have anyone who support. Instead give her advice to make her life better. According to me she should find stuttering supoort group, and hope she will find good friends in her life.