i get what you're saying. but it's like... i don't think "confidence" is even all that relevant to stuttering. sure, confidence issues might be correlated with stuttering, but it's by no means unique to us. and again, i don't see why we should - in general - strive for confidence when it might not even do anything to our stuttering situation. i guess we could say that, in so far as someone plans on taking their speech impediment into a career with speech performance, confidence would be a nice thing to have. but it wouldn't _help_ with the stuttering itself (unless by some chance this particular stutterer found that the more confident they were, the less they stuttered - which must be rare, i find). this is not to say that it can't be "empowering" to be in a speech performance situation, and experience stuttering, and still manage to pull through and complete the desired performance. we all have experiences like that on a daily basis, i'm sure. but i see no universal helpfulness in telling people to just be "confident". for one, the various ways in which people stutter, the ways in which they experience the loss of control, might be completely unrelated to them feeling, or focusing on being, confident. we're not the same, yeah? so speaking in general terms seems a bit besides the point? and making it about "work ethic" leaves all those in the dust for whom it makes no difference either way...