commentr/StutterMarch 7, 2015

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you will get over it because there is no other option. your own way to get over it may be by learning every trick and technique to never block again, it may be by being open and accepting about that is the way you talk and other just have to deal with it, or you may get over it by becoming a recluse and not ever talking to anyone again. my preferred method is the middle road of all three: get in the habit of recognizing when you are going to be having a bad time and focus on all the things you are supposed to do (take couscous control of automatic muscles, breath, etc), let the person know you have a stutter (this takes a HUGE burden off me which in itself leads to better fluency), and finally: try to get someone else to talk for you; make sure someone else drives if your going through a drive through, have a roomate call the cable company when you get over charged. in situations with authority figures, time pressure, and loud places being open about it is the best option i think. its better to have a cop or boss know you are not talking this way because you are nervous, the person needs to know your conversation will take longer and there is nothing they can do about it so they just need to fucking deal with it, and "we cant hold a conversation with all this noise" can get you out of many loud places. when all else fails remember: there is usually nothing wrong with excusing yourself to go to the restroom (or to go outside to smoke if you do so) if you need a minute to beat yourself up over it.

Themes

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Mindset shiftVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride

Codes (3)

intimidation_authorityordering_service_encountersocializing_group_size