I'm in the same boat. I know Spanish, but I rarely used it growing up because I stutter more in Spanish. And that's even though I grew up in a Spanish speaking country. I did go to a bilingual school though, so that provided an outlet. Now I feel like I don't belong anywhere. I'm not American enough to fit in 100% in the US and I never picked up all of the local Spanish things so I don't fit in well here either. People think English is my first language even though I spoke Spanish first. And we all know that Hispanics are very unforgiving of flaws. I can't count the times when people just told me basically to man up after I stuttered in school. One time I tried ordering a coke and I got stuck and a relative just said "Why'd you get stuck?" How do you respond to that? Couple that with the fact that therapy is still seen as a thing for children or weak minded people here. Even though I stuttered like crazy as a toddler and young kid, no one thought to try to find a speech therapist. It was always "just talk slowly". I was the one that had to find a therapist, and surprise the only ones here work with children so I don't think it's working out. I may just have to leave to an English speaking country. It's very disheartening to feel like a stranger in your own country all because some people couldn't take the effort. Sorry for the blog post, I think your post hit a little too close to home. To answer your question, you should feel upset. Tell her what stuttering actually is. But christ though, you'd think a family member would take the effort of learning. It really pisses me off. How do you grow up with someone that stutters and say something as stupid as "You need more confidence". It's literally as easy as opening up Wikipedia. My family also just mostly ignored it until I brought it up. I can tell now that that just made everything worse. It's infuriating. Like I don't imagine kids with Tourette's or some other speech/tic disorder have to say "Dad, I need help." I think stuttering is the only one where the default is "Just be confident" or "Talk more slowly".