commentr/StutterMarch 8, 2020

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When my daughter was 2-years old, we had our son. For the first two years of her life there was not one day that she was separated from her mother. When our son was born, my wife spent 5-days at the birthing clinic, and I took care of our daughter with the help of an aunt. Literally, the first words that my daughter uttered to my wife when she stepped in the door holding our son was stuttered. Within the span of a few days, she was having full facial contortions. I was absolutely panicked because I grew up stuttering myself, and although I have had by most measures a blessed and wonderful life myself, the thought of having my daughter to have to go through life with a stutter was distressing. This was 19-years ago. I jumped on the Internet and started searching for information in English but nothing that I found correlated well with my own experiences of stuttering. Quite honestly, most of it seemed completely off base and useless. Keep in mind that the Internet was much smaller back then. After having searched for hours and hours over several days, in a last ditch effort, I started searching in Japanese (wife is Japanese and I was living in Japan at the time), and literally on my FIRST search the answer came up! SITUATION: Second child is born and first child starts stuttering. SOLUTION: Shower the first child with love. So I completely ignored my newborn son for the first month and focused all my attention on my daughter. Within the span of two weeks, her stutter was completely gone! I was SO relieved! 1. I can understand the concern that you’re feeling as a parent of a child who stutters. All I can say is that it’s not necessarily the end of the world if it continues. A lot of it will depend on the degree of stuttering and their personality and outlook on life. The three stutterers that I know personally all curiously ended up being doctors, a profession that I myself chose NOT to enter because of my stutter. I studied computer science, instead, in order to minimize verbal communication. 2. As advice, I would not focus too much attention on the stuttering. Just let your son speak. The more he speaks the better. I personally feel that half of my stutter was being conscious of the stutter. It just makes things worse. I say “was” because now at the age of 50, my stutter is 90% better than when I was younger. The best thing you can do for him is just treat him like a normal kid. If, however, he does have a slight issue with feeling like he’s second fiddle to his sister, maybe you can try and compensate for that somehow and that might help. 3. Even though I stuttered while speaking, until the age of 10, I was the best reader (out loud) in class. So I would recommend reading out loud if he can do it fluently because increasing fluency time, I feel, is hugely beneficial. After the age of 10, I was no longer able to read out loud in public but, even so, knowing that I had been able to do it before gave me the hope that I could improve my situation, and surprisingly, things are much better now than before. Taking language classes is almost a hobby for me these days. Hope this helps in some shape or form.

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Parent & CaregiverSpeech & Stuttering

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Early Concern & OnsetParent Emotions & GuiltHome SupportOnset & Life-Stage Changes