commentr/StutterSeptember 3, 2015

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Here's my view on it. I'm in my early 20s and have stuttered since elementary school. It sucks. It really does. I understand that it's not something that I can change. And as you already know, life is way harder because of it. Interpersonal relationships become a fucking nightmare. Anxiety is bad just because of the possibility of having to talk to another person. Every fucking moment talking is mentally painful. It is draining. When I was in high school and in college, I rarely ever talked. I'm pretty sure there were people in my school who must've thought I was mute. The only time I ever did was when my teachers/professors would require it.It killed me every time I stuttered in front of others. I'm not sure what exactly changed, but I've started to care less about my stutter and focus on the good parts of life. Who cares (aside from myself) if I stutter? Nobody. Is it the end of the world? No. (As my psychology professor said...) Are you going to lose your birthday? No. Your life is about yourself. In the end, it doesn't really matter what other people think. Have some fun. Live life how you want to live it and remember that it is never too late to change. I stutter in front of my coworkers all the time. I stutter in front of my friends all the time. I stutter in front of strangers every day. Life goes on. If anyone makes a crude remark about it, fuck them. Making friends isn't an easy task as well BUT I think having a stutter does not really affect that. There are some people that might think less of you because of the stutter, but I wouldn't want to hang out with that type of person anyway. It's cliche, I know, but you need to get yourself out there. Get hobbies (I took up crocheting, cars, motorcycling, volunteering, hiking, calligraphy, and a few others... most of these I actually suck at). Step outside of your comfort zone. If you're in Seattle, we can hang out! Maybe join a Meetup.com group or something along those lines. If you're really looking for a date, check out a bar or perhaps use one of those dating apps like Tinder/Grindr/OKCupid/things.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships

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Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentSeverity & FluctuationAnxiety & Social JudgmentAcceptance & PrideFriendships & Belonging