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I did a talk to 40 people yesterday. In the run up I said “fuck it, I know what I am talking about, I will either stutter and fail miserably for 30 minutes or it will be OK. Either way I will know where I am with public speaking.” I joined the call, said I had a stutter and started talking. Generally it went great. I stuttered a number of times but it was fine. Later that day I went out for a meal and blocked for 5 seconds on every word to the waiter. I had to point to the menu because I could not express some words… that’s stuttering for you.. The way I cope is that I know I have ups and downs. I have good days and bad days. Good afternoons and bad evenings. If I am stuttering a lot I acknowledge that I am having a bad X. I often say that to others if it is relevant. “I cannot speak for shit today” has been said to colleagues multiple times. I never apologise. Stuttering is a thing that happens. I have done nothing wrong. Work is important, it gives me money to spend on shit I don’t need. It must get done. I personally would never give up on a call. I would point to a solution. E.g. I continue struggling, I start spelling, I say I will send a message over chat. I don’t beat myself up. I am having a bad few minutes. I would encourage you to take on a similar mindset. People will rarely get frustrated with you for stuttering. They will get exasperated with you if you let your stutter hinder your productivity and the productivity of the business. You know you stutter. They know you stutter. Figure out how to make it work. If the phone isn’t working then use WhatsApp, if you work in an office, walk to their desk and speak in person etc. There is lots you can do. When I stuttered no end at the restaurant I was still happy. I was happy because I got what I wanted. While it wasn’t smooth, I accomplished the task of ordering. With your experience at work, if it was me, I would have got the information over to them somehow. I would then swear and say thank F that is done.. get a drink and move on. Letting these bad patches come and go is the key to a happy existence. Bit like clouds in the sky. Don’t get attached, the sun will break through and that’s the stuff you can enjoy