I agree, yet this type of thinking for a lot of men especially can make them feel like they are showing vulnerability or not being secure in themselves. I often messaged people I was going on dates with that I had a stutter beforehand but in the back of my mind I was always thinking “are they going to think I’m insecure because I brought it up” when in reality it of course is best to bring it up. I believe I didn’t one time and I felt super bad for doing it. I don’t know how exactly to put it but I feel like it’s this paradox where if I talk more about it, I can come off as insecure, and if I don’t talk about it, there’s just an elephant in the room the entire time. Dating culture is just really weird right now and everybody is overthinking everything in general and people are becoming more and more judgmental. As a guy personally though I appreciated when people asked about it as most men are TRULY never asked about themselves.