I hear you. It's really hard not to let it get to you. I tend to overcompensate and push myself to be the one they have to listen to but I still end up having to teach people how to listen. What I did that actually helps a tiny bit is I have my life outside work. I'm athletic and a giant nerd so when I excel at sports or kick butt with my D&D buddies it's much easier to let work come and go. But it still gets to me sometimes.