postr/StutterJune 21, 2019

Social skills

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Social skills I’ve been stuttering ever since I can remember with a mild to moderate stutter. As a kid it was rough always the outcast and I think it’s because of my stutter but I’m not sure. It wasn’t the act of stuttering that made me an outcast it’s how I responded to it. Very insecure about it so I would close up and not talk and when I did talk just the thought of stuttering made my mannerisms awkward because I would try to hide it which only made it worse. I’m 24 now and I’ve accepted that I stutter but I still sometimes subconsciously try to hide it but i know I shouldn’t. Due to this I feel like I missed out on a lot of social interactions as a child and now my social skills aren’t where they should be as an adult. I’m not saying I’m super awkward and secluded and can’t have a conversation it’s more of I can’t maintain long lasting relationships because I didn’t develop the social skills as a child due to my stutter. I’ve never had a girlfriend but I’ve had decent amount of flings that always inevetibly end. Guy friends also tend to stop hanging out with me. Now I feel like the only thing I can do is work on me and keep improving. Stuttering has caused me to have a lonely life when I feel that if I didn’t it’d be full of friendship and happiness because when I don’t stutter ( I tend to have months every now and then that I rarely stutter) I start to be more outgoing and personable and doing things with people. Sorry for the post I just had to vent I don’t really have anyone to talk to about this type of thing

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships

Subthemes

Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingFriendships & BelongingLoneliness & Isolation

Codes (2)

emotional_stateperceived_judgment