I understand, and I have been through what you are describing. Stuttering significantly impacted my self-confidence for so long. The social anxiety resulting from having to deal with a stutter was also unbearable, and drove me to avoid people whenever I could. One thing I have realized over the years is that it wasn't the stutter that was responsible ; rather, it was how I chose to let it affect me. A turning point for me was to not only accepting it, but more importantly, MENTIONING it as soon as I met someone new "Hey, by the way, I speak a bit differently because I have a stutter. Anyway, how is your day going?". Sometimes, I'll even joke about it to further break the ice "I stutter.....so if you have any plans in the next 48 hours......cancel them!" . When we approach our own stutter with a light-hearted and (when appropriate) humorous approach, THAT is how others will perceive it too. When however we allow it to drastically affect us and how comfortable/relaxed we feel in a social situation, we are bound to come across as insecure, and not that pleasant to be around. Would you say your typically mention that you stutter when you meet someone new, people, and/or a woman?