maaaaaan it's about 100000x easier said than done, but realizing that though we might not be able to totally change our speech, we can change how we feel about it and ourselves and I think that's the first step on the journey to acceptance and comfort. Im not sure if it's something that one can do alone, support is vital. I recommend joining some of the fb groups, joining a local NSA chapter and definitely coming to the conference. It's much easier to rise when you have a whole community at your back.