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So this ended up longer than expected, lol. But I hope it helps! I first started allowing myself to stutter freely around a "safe person," which was my wife. I told her I was ready to try to stutter without holding back or trying to manipulate anything about it. Then, I "just" decided to from then on tell everybody I came in contact with "Hey, I stutter, so I might sound a bit weird." What helped a lot was doing this with store personnel. They naturally need to be kind and supportive towards customers, so when you say to them, "Hey, I have a stutter, etc.." they see it as a question for help. As in, you're trying to ask them to be kind and patient for something you're struggling with. People have a tendancy to go along with this, because it gives them a sense of doing something really good for another person, which sort of - in a weird sense - makes them feel good about themselves. You'll quickly notice how they pretty much all will react really kind to your "call for help/understanding." Then... just stutter absolutely freely. No holding back. Because you notified them, they're now aware and have shifted to this understanding and patient mindset. First few times You'll feel anxious about doing it, but it will get easier and easier each shop you enter. You'll quickly find out, "Oh, that wasn't too bad after all." Just try to do it around people you know will have to react in an understanding manner. Then you'll see that it isn't the end of the world and nothing bad will happen when others hear you stutter. Yes, you will have stuttered, but the truth is: we struggle most with how we think the world around us might potentially think about our stutter. When you do the store exercise, you'll see it wasn't such a bit deal after all. More and more, you'll feel more inclined to simply let it go afterwards. I went into all sorts of random stores pretending to be looking for something, and first thing I did was tell them straight up "they I stutter, so I might sound a bit weird, but I'm looking for [xyz]." Often, before I even ask for the supposed thing I'm looking for, they already will have said .Oh, don't worry about it at all!" I then started to apply this same thing to almost every person I came in contact with. The more I told people I stuttered, the less I started to care what they might think about it. Now, I hardly care at aaaallllllll. I literally don't care as I did before. Free yourself from being afraid of what others might potentially think about your stutter. You'll find that you'll most likely end up stuttering less because of it, too. I'm at a point now, where I just do bot care whether a person thinks something about it. It's like you reach a point where you just choose not to let it bother you anymore. Hope this helps! Good luck!