I’m a large man with a stutter and two young kids. Whenever I’m questioning if I should do something that could potentially be embarrassing, I think “what would I want to tell my kids? That I suffered through it or I didn’t try?”. A much smaller example than yours, I went to a commercial gym for the first time in 4yrs yesterday. As a guy who needs to be healthier, my anxiety/dread told me not to do it. On a similar note, I had to give two 75-minute presentations during my final year of my undergraduate. It was at a conference for teachers in the area and I dreaded it for the months I knew I’d have to do it. I stuttered terribly through out it, but it opened up this huge avenue where people still asked thoughtful questions and they still argued with my main points. They didn’t care, only I did. I often ask myself “what do I want to tell my kids?”