As a man I do think a lot of what you’re mentioning has to do with you being a woman. Men don’t judge a woman for stuttering because for one, we are very visual so if you’re pretty you already have a lot that we want. And the other point is that historically and arguably naturally a man doesn’t expect a woman to protect herself. He expects himself to protect the woman. So if you are having a hard day and feel disabled or emotionally erratic because of your bipolar, or feel that you can’t speak fluently in a very important moment, a man doesn’t judge that because we already consider ourselves your protector so we don’t need you to perform because we take the performance upon ourself. We be the emotionally stoic person when you aren’t. A man may find it cute and feel that he’s taking care of you but I think a woman taking care of a man may somewhat feel good but also make her feel unsafe because she expects him to take care of her. Another thing is that I think bipolar man may be judged a lot harsher because our anger and emotions are seen as more dangerous. If a man goes manic he might start fighting people or blowing up with rage, while a woman physically isn’t really considered a threat. However if you’re confident and always stand up to speak, you may be such a competent and confident speaker in general that nobody feels they could bully you. But yea, these are my thoughts on it.