commentr/StutterDecember 10, 2025

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I’m a senior in high school right now, and his situation sounds pretty similar to mine when I was his age. I was talkative around my family because words seemed to just naturally come out better around them, but whenever I was in school or out in public I struggled because I was anxious. I would isolate myself from people, not because I didn’t want friends, but because I was scared of stuttering. I love my parents, but they struggled to support me with my stutter in many ways and I want to make sure you don’t do the same with your son. Firstly, I didn’t get the kind of support I needed in school. I’m a very normal kid in terms of virtually everything except my speech. I was good at hiding my stutter because it was something I was super embarrassed about. I never stuttered around my family, so my parents were never concerned about me stuttering in school. My sophomore and junior years I started skipping class to avoid presentations and other stuff like that and that’s when my parents found out about how my stutter was effecting me, and now in my senior year I finally got an IEP for my stuttering. This whole situation was definitely my fault because I never opened up to my parents about what was going on, but some people are very afraid of doing so. There is a good chance your son isn’t that way, but I recommend that you always check up on him especially as he gets older. And also please never talk down on him and shame him in any kind of way. I know you would probably never do this, but my parents would do it very often without realizing. Again, probably my own fault, but as I got older my parents would call me lazy because I wouldn’t get a job, but the reality is that I was scared because of my stutter. They would insinuate that I was loser because I would never have friends over, but in reality it was because stuttering made it really hard for me to make friends. They would say I made them look like bad parents because I would skip school all the time, but in reality it was because I was scared to death of going to school sometimes. My parents were great to me, but always struggled to give me the support I needed because I was never open to them. Please don’t make the same mistakes my parents did and always encourage your son to tell you guys what is going on.

Themes

Emotional ExperienceSchool & WorkAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Anxiety & Social JudgmentSchool & Academic LifeHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking