commentr/StutterApril 1, 2022

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This sort of question actually illustrates just how impactful stuttering can be to one's psyche and mental health. The massive desperation that some people who stutter feel. And if this subreddit is a fair representation, it's not a small percentage that struggle under the weight of it. People are ready to risk their health to correct their stutter. We see posts here about alcohol abuse helping with stuttering. Pinning hopes on medication in early trials. Suicidal ideations. But like many things in life, there are solutions already present. Take obesity as an example. We all know the solution. Healthy diet and exercise. From a 1,000-foot view, it is literally that easy. But it's about changing habits and behaviors. You have to shop smarter. You have to say "no" to the doughnuts in the breakroom. You have to get off the couch and walk. And you have to do these things day after day. And even if you succeed, you need to stay vigilant. Stuttering is not so different. Speech therapy and "exercise" (practicing your speech therapy daily) works. You need to shop smart (find the right speech therapist and program) and get off the couch and talk (put in the practice every day.) And you have to keep working at it. ***And it is HARD WORK. Change isn't easy.*** You have to put in the work. What's even harder is opening yourself up to the idea of change. Many of us have a wall we've built around our stutter. Around the pain we've suffered. Some of us reading this believe speech therapy doesn't work. Or that it doesn't work for them. I understand. I've been there. My first experiences with speech therapy were in public school. Public school speech therapy is often our first experience with speech therapy. In my case, it was woefully inadequate. That was my first impression of speech therapy. "It doesn't work." First impressions are tough to shake. At some point, many stutterers accept stuttering as permanent. Why wouldn't we? If that's all we've ever known, that feels pretty permanent. Any "help" we've received up to this point hasn't helped. "If at first you don't succeed, try, try again." I really believe that most everyone can improve their fluency, given the opportunity, courage, and discipline. For some of us, the opportunity might not be accessible right now. Based on geography, income, or other factors. That's where the courage and discipline come in. Seek out a resource. Build the bridge to get there. Like I said before, ***it is HARD WORK.*** I often hear people say, "I would do anything to get rid of my stutter." Would you? What steps have you taken today? This month? This year? Sometimes you don't even know where to start. Ask for help. Ask here. Ask your doctor. Ask google. Contact a stuttering treatment program. Even if it's on the other side of the world. Get referrals. Read a book. If you've seen a speech therapist in the past and it didn't help, go back to them. Ask them "Why weren't you able to help me?" Maybe the therapist didn't specialize in speech pathology or stuttering. Maybe you didn't put in the required effort (That was my situation at one time.) But make an effort to better understand. If they can't help you, ask for a referral to someone who can help. It's natural to feel like no one else in the world could possibly understand what it's like to stutter. I participate in this subreddit because I grew up with a stutter when there weren't subreddits. I remember the feeling of isolation.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityCommunity & Support

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Anticipating StutteringHiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & MonitoringStress & Fight/FlightTrauma & PsychologicalAdvice Requests