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Ok for me I started to stutter later in life when I was in my early teens. I pretty much kind of know broadly of how it developed. Anyways I ask you that because if you developed it later like me you could use recolllection of your times when you were fluent as information to help you crack the code of what your stuttering could be. I had my stutter for over 5 years and I'm sorta barely getting over it. When I had a major stutter I had the belief and idea that I had to manufacture words and sentences to speak (-like most stutterers. When I read and found out that words and sounds and grammatically correct sentences actually happen without our conscious effort.. without us even trying I was I didn't really believe it.. but eventually my trust in natural speech grew once I had my own experiences of fluency. I was on the brink and I had nothing to lose and was in a pretty dark place.. I was willing to try anything so I went out and said I would for at least 1 month give this "natural speech a try" and for a month I wont back down but I will go into situations even if I'm anxious or whatever and I will speak even if I know I'm going to stutter or mess up on my speech. At first my speech seemed to get even worse but i attribute that to all the stress and resistance from going into normally avoided situations. I also had in my mind an ex stutterer Named Alan Badmington. He made me seriously consider and ultimately take a "non Avoidance" way of living. Remember, I was at my wits end (or however that saying goes) and I thought if non Avoidance helped this man get over his stutter then I will do the same. And I Experimented and then I noticed my stuttering diminishing. I begin to trust natural speech more than manufactured speech. I noticed just like an stutter Ruth mead realized that the less she worried about her speech including not manufacturing speech she stuttered less. She has a book called speech is a river I highly recommend it. So changing my belief of how speech occurred and also combined with that going out and not avoiding speaking situations my stutter diminished. At the same time I was also doing a lot of internal work changing perception beliefs intentions, basically changing my entire worldview. By doing this I became more expressive and more myself and I blocked less and my intonation volume became higher. I was doing all these things because anything anything an ex stutter did I replicated that and observed to see what would happen. One big thing that made me go out and take initiative why is that I kind of gave up caring about what others thought and I was willing to look like a fool and fail and I also really had nothing to lose. I'm kind of rambling but three sources of knowledge helped me and offered ways and things I could do to understand my stutter 1. Speech is a river by Ruth Mead 2. Redefining stuttering by John C Harrison 3. Getting my hands on any recovery stories and experimenting Fuck man.. my comment got deleted it was a lot more than what I have above.. damnit!!!! Well look up Alan Badmington John C Harrison Ruth Mead Anna Margolina they all have interviews on a podcast called stuttering rockstar just type in their name after stuttering rockstar u will find it. Also be sure to loook up Sam Crowley and his videos on stuttering and his story of overcoming he has a podcast "everyday is Saturday" and two good videos on stuttering on YouTube. Also if you do try to stop worrying or trying to make speech happen you will find out that deliberately trying not to think/worry about speech doesn't work.. in fact if you deliberately try not to the only thing you probably can think of will be speech.. I learned from observation and from Getting the idea nailed into my head by others (Anna Margolina) that in order to not worry about speech I do it "indirectly" just by focusing on something else. U may not understand what I mean now but do ur studying and experimentation etc and this will probably come back to you. Wish u the best man. (I'm pretty unhappy that my original text I accidentally deleted.. I was trying to save it and it erased. sorry man.. but look up those people promise that.)