commentr/StutterSeptember 8, 2015

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Listen man. I'm 6'6" and when I was 19, I had no idea how to even speak to a girl. I'd constantly be in the friend zone. Just be a nice guy and you'll learn your way to meeting the right girl. You'd be surprised what the friends you make will remember about you. They won't remember that you stutter but that you're a good friend. You asked for advice: here it is 1) Go to loud bars and clubs. The sound behind you will distract your brain and make you more fluent. The girl will probably not be able to hear you the first time you speak to her. The second and third time will be more fluent. Plus and plus. 2) Look in the mirror and speak or record yourself speaking. Try not to make weird contortion faces when you stutter. This takes practice. 3) Use online dating to meet women. In the US we have sites and apps like Okcupid, tinder, hinge, etc. Start the conversation about things you'd speak to friends with. If you feel comfortable with the girl and decide to meet, tell her you stutter. If she's a good girl, she won't care. I've met women wayyyyy out of my league just because I treat them with respect even if things don't work out. There's a way to pimp respectfully. Stutter or not. 4) Be nice to people. Work on your self confidence. If you have to get psychotherapy or take anti anxiety meds then do it. You will feel better. I wish you all the success in the world my friend. I was once where you are. It gets better. Much better. Fuck McDonalds. Why do you want to work there anyway? Go find a job that fits your intelligence and drive.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & MonitoringDating & RomanceFriendships & BelongingPower Dynamics & Intimidation

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