So, regarding overcoming fears and needs that drag us down, make it a strength. I struggled with this all my life, but after going through HELL, I just got tired of it and I’m like “what’s the point of these thoughts? why the fuck am I wasting my life on this?” I had rhetorical questions about everything I allowed to keep from pursuing a life I wanted for myself. I am still human so old habits don’t die easily, but I don’t entertain them in my head. Entertaining thoughts is like starring at a beautiful sunset with rainbow, but when a tiny cloud passes by, your eyes follow it and before you know it, the rainbow is gone and that beautiful sunset is gone. That cloud is everything that’s stopping you. Just let it pass by. Don’t entertain it by creating hypothetical scenarios. Just keep staring at the rainbow and sunset. Those are the things you dream of and want to do. This takes effort and it’s really draining mentally, but it’s possible. If you need validation, ask yourself first, “Do I validate myself? Do I validate who I am?” All you need is your own validation. If feel that you won’t be liked by someone then ask yourself, “Do I like myself? Do I like who I am? Will I die if they don’t like me? Would be the end of my world if they dislike me?” Trust me, if there is a scenario where you are being rude to someone, then it won’t matter whether you’re stuttering or not because you’ll be disliked for your behaviour. People like us always assume that our stutter makes others dislike us and 99% that is NOT the case. Just accept stutter is a part of who you are. Some people are fluent and some people stutter. Some people have brown hair, some have black, red, multi coloured, but at the end of the day hair colour can be changed. At the end of the day people who stutter can become fluent. We have personalities the way fluent people have it, but stutter is NOT a part of it. Being funny, charming, intelligent, artistic and so on, is everything any person can be. ANYONE. I know this is a long explanation, but I’m hoping this helps comprehend it further. As I mentioned, let me know if I can help you with anything else.