commentr/StutterApril 18, 2017

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and I have never heard such intelligent conversation about stuttering. Much like this subreddit, it's amazing to have so much common ground in understanding, knowing that everyone has been through so many of the same things. I noticed a general consensus that one of the biggest steps forward you can take is acceptance: being comfortable to stutter instead of being afraid to speak, which happens to be a thought that pulled me up from months of not speaking very much at all. Anyway, I would highly recommend it as an environment to speak and stutter freely in, a place to practice, grow, and generally spread positivity about what we go through. Edit: Following up, the strangest thing was that I felt more nervous anticipation leading up to it - as much as a job interview - because I knew I'd have to deal with my own stutter; but everyone was genuinely patient in a way that I was surprisingly willing to work through my stuttering to convey my point and it never felt humiliating even when I did block. It made a huge difference that everyone understood what the person speaking/stuttering is dealing with so there's zero humiliation no matter what comes out of your mouth. In general I appreciate people guessing my words if I'm struggling but from now on I'm actually going to ask them to be patient. It was that eye-opening and different to converse with people who get it, and I think I've found a path forward for conversing with people who might not.

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Community & SupportCoping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

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Validation & EmpathyPersonal StoriesMindset shiftVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureHope & MotivationAcceptance & Pride

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