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Some progress... some tips Hi guys! So for a long time I denied my stutter but my dad stutters and it's genetic. Looking back, it has DRAMATICALLY impacted my life. Recently, I realized two things that worsened my stutter. 1) Life's template: the idea that there is a "proper" way of speaking. I constantly compared my speech to a template in my head of how it "should sound". I believe this thinking came from being thrown into pageants at a young age even though it was not in my nature. It made me hyper aware and self-conscious , i.e. made me worry about how others see me. It didn't match my personality. I am not generalizing. 2) Realizing that nobody cares. Think about when you speak, are you thinking about the inflections and specific sounds coming out of the other person's mouth? No, maybe sometimes, but for the most part, you are processing what the meaning behind what they are saying is and what you are going to say next. No one is going to notice your speech errors unless they are having a hard time understanding you. Think about it, the human brain is like a billion computers in one. We can get used to and understand SO many different accents and speech patterns, accept yours and start communicating! I'm not 100% fluent yet but I am getting there.