postr/StutterFebruary 16, 2016

Staying positive sure is hard!

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Staying positive sure is hard! Hey folks, I've used Reddit in the past when i needed help with unimportant things like video games and stuff and I've always left with some great information so after doing some thinking i decided i would come to you all with my very serious problem and see if anyone can offer me some solid advice. I'm 19 (almost 20) and have stuttered since i was a little kid. My uncle and aunt both stutter/stuttered so it's genetic, my sister has a stutter as well. In recent years my stutter has gotten worse, it went from the stereotypical "and and and and" to full blown blocks. When i go to speak there's always an issue. It's not with certain words, it's with anything. If i'm at the eye doctor and he ask's me what a certain number or letter is 99.9 percent of the time i have a block, it feels like someone is grabbing the word and holding it with all their might! Because of this constant issue i have become totally isolated, i typically only leave the house if we're going to my grandma's for a holiday or something. I have no friends and finding a job is terrifying. First and foremost, i will admit that i do believe most people don't care if i stutter. The issue though is dealing with not just the stutter but people's reactions to the stutter. I had an incident where someone close to me made a joke about my stutter and i flipped out, i exploded. I felt like i was being bullied and i had a flashback to my dreaded high school days. I was wondering how you guys deal with going to the doctors, dentist, job interview etc. Let's say i need to check in at the doctor and she ask's me for my name, i know there's a good chance for trouble and possible embarrassment so how should i react when i get a block? I want people to take me seriously, i don't want to be looked at like i'm a little child. I know this isn't exactly positive but i know there's some damn good people on Reddit who can throw some tips my way. Thanks guys, ya'll rock!

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience

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Feared Words & NamesGenetic & Family FactorsStress & Fight/FlightSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesShame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social Judgment

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ordering_service_encounteremotional_stateperceived_judgment