This is a complex topic. My comment will only touch the surface. My 7 year old has 2 speech impediments, one of them being a stutter. For years, I convinced myself I never wanted to have kids because of the things that you describe. Well, he got my stutter and my ADHD. I don't think you're being hypocritical. Of course, we don't want our children to have hardships. But you've been through this, and you will have the ability to give him the love and support he needs. I don't know where you are in your own journey, but in my experience the more acceptance I have with my own stutter, it makes it easier for me to realize no matter what happens with my son he is going to be ok and I am going to be there for him. If you ever want to chat, feel free to DM me