Okay, I have a few comments to make about this. First, I understand your frustration, and I'll give you some grace regarding your wording here. However, I have to point out that you don't come across as very empathetic towards her (I'm saying you don't \*come across\* as empathetic, not that you aren't at all). She's clearly dealing with a lot of anxiety, social and/or general, as a result of her insecurity and past hurts. It doesn't come across well for you to say she "rants" for thirty minutes, wastes time, has a inferiority and victim complex, and doesn't do "basic things." Again, I understand your frustration, and it's not your job to manage someone else's life for them, but you just don't come across as empathetic towards her. If you spend any length of time scrolling in this subreddit, you'll notice that phone calls are a particularly daunting task to PWS. Many of us have plenty of stories of phone calls not going well, having lots of issues, people being rude, people hanging up on us, etc.. She's likely experienced the same. And instead of listening to her and validating her feelings, you characterize her as "ranting" and wasting time. Again, I don't know you, you could be plenty validating and understanding in real life, you're just not portraying yourself that way here. Do past experiences and anxiety mean she shouldn't make phone calls/get others to make calls for her? No, of course not. She \*should\* be doing those things for herself, and you \*should\* be supportive and empathetic, not telling her how irrational her feelings are. Also, I find it contradictory (and really annoying. and condescending) for someone to say they want their partner to build confidence, then to point out to their partner that they have no friends and should try making some. Do you think telling her that would build her confidence, or tear it down? lol. Again, you don't come across as validating and supportive (again, you may very well be in real life, just not coming across that way here). She tells you she feels she struggles to make friends because of her stutter, and how insecure she is around new people. And you just say that adults don't give a shit and your family are eager to get to know her. While true, you're not trying to understand her and where she's coming from, you're just annoyed. I do agree with you, and have found this to be true in my life, that adults worth their salt don't really care and will have no problem. But many people also \*do\* care, are mocking, are impatient, and are judgemental. There's also well-meaning people who do things that can be bothersome to many PWS, like guessing a word/sentence when we're having trouble. She has all this life experience, you don't. \*You\* don't have a problem with it and don't think most people would, that doesn't mean she's never come across someone who has. All that being said, I understand your frustration. While her anxieties and fears are understandable, she \*is\* letting those things get in the way of living life. But here's the thing: you can't do anything about it. She's clearly coming from a place of deep anxiety, possibly trauma. While you should be supportive of her and understanding of where she's coming from, it's not on you to fix her issues. All you can do is suggest individual (maybe couple's too) counseling. It's completely on her to seek help, do the work, and be uncomfortable. If she's unwilling to do those things, you really only have two options: You can accept that this is the way she is, that she will get others to make phone calls or speak to others in public (and you can refuse to do those things for her. Perfectly valid), or you end the relationship.