For us, accepting means that the stutter is there. It’s a part of our world. (My son stutters). I accept that I can’t fix him. Of course I fight tooth and nail for him to get services. The services focus on strategies that reduce tension. What do you do when you get stuck? If my son doesn’t care about fluency, i don’t either. He sometimes has “performances” that he cares about. I work with him as he practices and uses his tools. When the performance comes he tries to be fluent. Success isn’t measured by fluency, it’s measured by his ability to keep his tension in check. If he stutters- who cares? Did he communicate? But.... the kicker is the less he cares the less he stutters. The lower his tension, the more fluent he is. The more he’s able to just speak and not care, the better he does. There are some days that just suck. We accept those too. There are some great days. Pushing for fluency creates pressure and stress. That leads to tension. Which leads to dysfluency. We push for acceptance and remembering tools, which alleviates tension. Which leads to fluency. There are so many emotions tied into this. I just want my son to feel peace and to live his best life. He has to endure jerks. I want him to love himself anyway. I want him to speak. He might stutter. I want him to speak anyway. Things are hard. I want him to try if that’s what he wants to do. Of course we do speech therapy but that’s to make life better, not worse. Gah, I’m rambling in circles.