commentr/StutterApril 14, 2023

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We're our own worst enemy. This goes for people in general, but you add a difficulty like stuttering, a direct impact on communication with others, it really magnifies things. I use to see myself as handicapped, less than, incapable of great things. And now, at my age, I wish I would have focused on the potential I knew I had a lot sooner than I did. I very much believe there are people I've come across in my life that have placed hurdles or walls in front of me specifically because of my speech. These people are dicks. I'm not the problem, they are. YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM. THEY ARE. It's easy to say "be strong", "stay strong", and maybe my upbringing helped me in that regard. Butt I truly believe that if you get right wth yourself, believe in your abilities, you're going to achieve what you're afte (I know, cliche)r. There are always going to be people that place hurdles, whether or not you stutter, but there are more people that won't. That don't care. Even folk that are going to support and defend you. I don't do so too often because I'm a militant fuck, it's not often I can speak up for myself without being aggressive about it. But I try to. You should try to. Set people straight that pity, ridicule, patronize you, this is unacceptable with or without a stutter. And maybe drilling that in might help take the focus away from you. Because it's not you, it's them. You're fine. Maybe we have a more difficult time than others, but we're not "a wrong", we're not "a mistake". We're people just like anyone else. Tl;dr - Believe in yourself and set those straight that think you're less than. You know you're not. The way you write in and of itself shows that. Own it.

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Identity & DisabilityEmotional ExperienceCoping & Advocacy

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Identity & Self-PerceptionHelplessness & AgencySelf-Advocacy & Boundaries