commentr/StutterAugust 12, 2023

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Hey! Most of us know exactly how you feel. Problems arise because you're anticipating it so much which is very normal in the type of situation you feel yourself being in. Paradoxically, it's this same anticipation that (at least) causes you to stutter more. You think about stuttering all the time before you speak, because you feel your stutter is a threat somehow, which in return causes you to (at least) stutter more. For some, or for almost everyone, I think this same anticipatory anxiety is what caused them to stutter as a child, which then began creating a way of thinking and speaking, which has became automatic. What really helps me, is learning to literally not care or to not be bothered by what others might think. I only stutter when I anticipate it - when I'm thinking about potentially stuttering before entering some conversation. The anticipation happens because you believe there is a threat somewhere regarding your stutter. I find myself anticipating - or thinking about stuttering before a conversation- way way less now that I care way way less about whether or not other people hear me stuttering. Once you stop caring, you automatically stop feeling there a threat, which then also leads to way less (or even no) anticipation beforehand at all. We usually only (negatively) antipate things when we sense some form of threat. Do you stutter when talking loudly when alone? Or to a pet? A tree? Hope this helps a bit. :) Stutterer since 6 years old. 30 now.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience

Subthemes

Anticipating StutteringAnxiety & Social JudgmentHiding & Concealment