The praising is part of the the therapy, we are following the Lidcombe approach as suggested by our therapist. But I understand what you're saying. I definitely don't discourage or shame him when his stutter is acting up, or tell him to slow down or think before he speaks. I know I need to talk to my wife about my feelings, but like I said, it's just another thing on the pile that we really don't have time or energy for. Just getting my thoughts out on this forum and all the thoughtful responses have really put my mind at ease (none of my friends have kids yet, so talking to them about it also wasn't considered). We are definitely on the same page/team when it comes to tackling this issue as we move forward. We both only want the best for the kids, of course. But you're right, the blame game is not helpful and not something I want to dwell on. Just nagging thoughts that I needed to vent. Thanks so much for your response.